Do you consciously believe you are worthy of being happy? What words do you reflexively use with yourself when you make a mistake? How do the people in your life treat you on a daily basis?

The answers to these questions will reveal your relationship to yourself. If you feel like you are unworthy of love or have a low opinion of yourself, you could be suffering from a self-loathing mindset. Self-hate can manifest in many ways. It can look like harsh, negative self talk or constant financial struggles from a deep sense of being unworthy of abundance. It can even manifest in you inviting the people in your life to take advantage of you. Self-love is crucial for creating a happy and healthy life. People treat you how you teach them to, so if you feel unworthy of kind treatment and consideration, you will inevitably attract people who are all too happy to agree with you.

The source of self-hate often begins in childhood. Circumstances like having an abusive (physically, verbally or sexually) adult in your life can result in self-loathing, as well as other childhood traumas or dysfunctions. However, self-hate is not a terminal condition, there are reasons why you feel the way you do about yourself, and there are ways to train your brain to turn negative, self-loathing thoughts into more self-loving thoughts.

In this Real Love Revolution video all about turning self-hate into self-love, you will learn:

  • What self-loathing looks like (low self-esteem, anxiety, financial struggles and bad relationships)
  • How your childhood experiences impact the way you feel about yourself as an adult
  • How self-loathing affects your life (wanting to numb your feelings, perfectionism, lack of self-care, etc.)
  • Four easy strategies to transform your feelings from self-hate to self-love

The truth is: Your low opinion of yourself is not your fault, and there is something you can do about it, but you have to be willing to do something different. Are you willing to be coached? Take on my Self-Love Challenge and do this Self-Love Meditation every day this week. Learning to appreciate, value and take care of yourself are all important pieces to self-love, and ultimately to having a happy and healthy life.

The time is now to commit to creating a loving, supportive relationship with yourself.

Drop me a comment here on the blog and let me know what resonated with you after watching this video. Then head over to my YouTube Channel and SUBSCRIBE for free access to every Real Love Revolution vid! Join the conversation with #RealLoveRevolution on social media and share the love!

Take the time now to watch this video and start your Self-Love Meditation Challenge to create a practice of active and conscious self-love on a daily basis. You have the ability to change your own thoughts and behaviors, and you deserve to feel the power of your own love.

Thanks for watching, reading and sharing!

And as always, take care of YOU.


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  1. Hi Terri,
    I’ve recently come across your work and have been diving quite deeply into some of my condependency issues that I am realising stem from a virtually non-existent sense of self worth. Or at least, a misguided sense of self worth, in that it comes from meeting the needs of others after years of having to deal with a controlling and emotionally abusive mother and a childhood of sexual abuse from a grandparent.

    I think I’ve gotten a bit better in recent years on trying to determine my worth from internal qualities and attributes, but I’ve just now had the realisation that those qualities (generosity, kindness, respect, love, compassion, loyalty) are ALL about what I give or do for someone else. Sadly, and painfully, none of those things go inwards. Having recovered from an eating disorder I thought I was way beyond needing to boost my self worth and self love.

    My question is, how do you work towards developing self worth and self love, when you’d don’t even feel worthy of those efforts to do so? I don’t know if that makes sense, but it’s hard to do the things that help when you don’t feel worthy of them. When it feels so unbearably painful to be nice to yourself? I guess a part of me must feel worthy otherwise I wouldn’t be here and I wouldn’t be asking this question. But I am interested to know your thoughts should you be able to share.


    1. Tanya,
      Sorry for the delay…
      I understand your question and honestly think therapy is the best way to get weekly guidance on how to build self esteem and higher self regard. You can do it and you are correct- you would not be asking the question if somewhere down deep you didn’t think there was a way to achieve it. I am rooting you on!

  2. Hi Terri
    This is all fine when you are beautiful or even normal looking, but when you are ugly there is no amount of therapy or meditation that can give you self-worth. From the age of 5, I knew I was not like the other children. When I began school, it was 100% proof that I was not like the others. I am now 61 years old. I have had numerous severe depressions in my life. I have not worked for the past 10 years. The hardest part of my day is getting up in the morning, washing my face and getting dressed. I sleep-in quite often. I am stuck in limbo. There are no self-help books, no therapists and no podcasts that can help someone attain self-assurance and a successful life if they are ugly.

    1. Teresa,

      I do not agree with you, but I hear that is how you decided it is and here are my thoughts:

      I’m sorry we live in a culture that does not recognize and honor the beauty you have –
      and that it’s difficult that our culture focuses so intensely on external beauty, but for the world to see your internal beauty, you need to value it yourself.

      My question to you is this:

      What other aspects of yourself are beautiful?
      What beautiful things do you appreciate and do in this world, that is not connected to physical beauty?

      Also have you seen any of the Lizzie Valasquez story here is the link to the vid and her TED talk.

      thanks for sharing here xo

  3. Terri spot on…. I have never in my 55 years liked or felt worthy of me. i can not look in mirror at me why i have none. last year something snapped in me and i have been in therapy. just about a month ago i revealed some bad stuff that has happened to me and ruined my life, so i guess this is a journey i am trying to take because if i do not i will be in trouble. i have been getting trusting of counselor and i do know we have talked as this as well. the saying “have no where to go but up” is where i am and i thank you for the added help because we can not have therapy 24 7. thank you

    1. Sandra,
      I am so grateful that you shared your journey here with us. You are so brave and know that you are no t alone. The videos and meditations I am making are to support you in between therapy appointments 😉 Keep up the good work. As long as you don’t give up -you will, over time, realize how beautiful and truly worthy you are. The most empowered action you can take is to decide that no matter what others did to you in the past-that you will choose to RISE right now and stand up for you, protect you and love you because you are worthy. I am impressed and proud of your courage and so happy you are here with us! xo

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