I can’t believe I am about to type this but here goes…

2014 is just two days away! Can you believe it?!

No matter how present I am during the year, New Years Eve still seems to creep up on me! This is always a time for me to count my blessings and spend time reflecting. I am feeling a deep appreciation for all of you readers, tweeters and FB posters. You’re the visionaries who inspire me and keep me doing the work I love to do. I am so grateful for your presence in my life and in this community…thank you <3.

In reflecting on this past year, inevitably New Year’s Resolutions seek our attention.  I resolve to maintain productivity yet incorporate more personal balance in 2014.

What are you resolving for 2014?

When you think about all the changes you want to make in the coming year, how do you feel? Does the idea of New Years resolutions fill you with dread?

Well, I want you to feel inspired and excited. I want you to look forward to these changes, knowing they are actually do-able. So that 6 months into 2014, you can look back and say, ‘Well that was actually pretty easy.’

Tweet: Transformation of any kind is possible, if you frame it the right way. @Terri_Cole

Perhaps New Year’s Resolutions don’t have to be these, all or nothing, everything must change, overarching goals. The re-frame can be to see your resolutions as a series of small changes, in habits, that you can make and/or break. What many of you deem as your ‘bad’ qualities or personality defects, may simply be bad habits that you have fallen into, that no longer (or never really did) serve the person you aspire to be. Changing habitual thoughts and behavior is the beginning of achieving your resolutions with ease and grace.

The next step to deciding what you want to be different in 2014, is taking an honest look at 2013. I invite you to take some time and join me in completing the three lists below:


Write down experiences, feelings, people, circumstances… anything that you do not want to drag with you into 2014. Share this list with a trusted friend who will witness without judgment. Then, burn the list so the energy attached to it can be released back into the universe and out of your experience.

Then I encourage you to look at the habits around the ‘crap’ you want to leave in 2013. Perhaps you want to leave a crappy relationship but have a habit of dating the same types of people. When you recognize this habit hasn’t worked so well for you in the past, you can begin to form new habits and boundaries around how (and who) you choose to date.


Write down what you learned from your experiences, good and bad, but especially from the ones you want to leave behind. Once you honor what you learned, you won’t need to repeat the crappy situation. Even the worst situation has a gem. You just have to be willing to look through the crap to find it. What new behavior came out of that lesson? Hold onto this list.


Write what you want to create for yourself: how you want your life to look and feel. This list should be written in the present tense and include all areas of your life: love, health, family, wealth, friends, career, fitness, spirituality, etc. Marinate, meditate, and think on what you have written. Break down the way new behavioral patterns will look as you are achieving your goals. Put this list where you can see it on a daily basis. When you look at this list, feel the feelings of having these things. By conjuring the feelings you become a magnet that will draw the experiences to you.

While it can be easy to fall back into old ways, it can be just as easy to make slight shifts in your behavior. Small changes and baby steps will eventually create big transformation. It requires a re-frame and patience with yourself and the process.

We are the architects and engineers of our life experience, so commit to creating your best life in 2014!

I want to know all about the crap you are leaving in 2013, but even more I want to know about what small changes in old habits you are going to make to help you move forward effortlessly into a brand new year.

Sending you peace, ease and happiness throughout this New Year. Happy Happy New Year and as always take care of you.


Love Love Love,




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  1. Hi Terri
    I just signed up for your newsletter and I wanted to thank you for all the amazing advice that you have given. I was a creature of habit and i always had to do the same thing over and over again but now I love to try different things and I have finally broken down that wall and started to love my self again. From the bottom of my heart again i say thank you.


  2. Thanks for the inspiration. I got everyone at work to change their usual seats for the morning meeting. We discussed getting in a rut and had a laugh.

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