The best present you can give to your loved ones this Holiday Season, is your presence. In fact, it is the best gift for any and every season. If you can manage to keep your head where your feet are, your joy quotient will rise exponentially.
We are all guilty of future and past tripping, going over our To Do list while pretending to be in a conversation and generally being someplace else. The problem with not being present to the moment is, we lose it. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.
How sad is that? I think about all of the moments I missed in my own precious life when I was a workaholic talent agent and feel that sadness. Sometimes you are too busy mulling over something someone said an hour ago, a week ago, or even a year ago, to pay attention to the NOW. Regardless of where your mind goes, past or future, if you are not in the present, you are missing out.
Past and future tripping does not usually bring on joy. I bet you don’t spend hours or days reliving your best vacation or your deepest accomplishment, right? Right. Regrets about the past and anxiety about the future are usually what people are ruminating on when they are not Here Now.
This is where surrender becomes so important. When you enter into a place of surrender you can lay to rest your wish that things had been different, along side your worry that life won’t work out the way you hoped. When you stop resisting what is you open the door to really experiencing the present moment. It is only in the present moment that you can access the joy that is all around.
One of the best ways I know to actually practice surrender (think of it as a skill to master) is to first acknowledge that you are not present. When you have a moment in your ‘tripping’ where you ‘come to,’ take a breath and repeat to yourself “I am here.” You can even stomp your feet on the floor to physically reground yourself in the present.
Breath. Repeat. Stomp. Breath. Repeat. Stomp.
Try this throughout this Holiday Week. Bring yourself back to the moment, back to the space where you can access joy and sink into surrender. As always I would love to hear from you. Do you past and future trip often? Which one are you more focused on? And how did this exercise in surrender work for you?
Sending lots of love from my heart to yours. Have a beautiful Holiday, not missing a moment, and as always take care of you.
Love Love Love