The best present you can give to your loved ones this Holiday Season, is your presence. In fact, it is the best gift for any and every season. If you can manage to keep your head where your feet are, your joy quotient will rise exponentially.

We are all guilty of future and past tripping, going over our To Do list while pretending to be in a conversation and generally being someplace else. The problem with not being present to the moment is, we lose it. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.

How sad is that? I think about all of the moments I missed in my own precious life when I was a workaholic talent agent and feel that sadness. Sometimes you are too busy mulling over something someone said an hour ago, a week ago, or even a year ago, to pay attention to the NOW. Regardless of where your mind goes, past or future, if you are not in the present, you are missing out.

Past and future tripping does not usually bring on joy. I bet you don’t spend hours or days reliving your best vacation or your deepest accomplishment, right? Right. Regrets about the past and anxiety about the future are usually what people are ruminating on when they are not Here Now.

This is where surrender becomes so important. When you enter into a place of surrender you can lay to rest your wish that things had been different, along side your worry that life won’t work out the way you hoped. When you stop resisting what is you open the door to really experiencing the present moment. It is only in the present moment that you can access the joy that is all around.

Tweet: When you feel yourself swimming up stream, just flip over and float. @Terri_Cole

One of the best ways I know to actually practice surrender (think of it as a skill to master) is to first acknowledge that you are not present. When you have a moment in your ‘tripping’ where you ‘come to,’ take a breath and repeat to yourself “I am here.” You can even stomp your feet on the floor to physically reground yourself in the present.

Breath. Repeat. Stomp. Breath. Repeat. Stomp.

Try this throughout this Holiday Week. Bring yourself back to the moment, back to the space where you can access joy and sink into surrender. As always I would love to hear from you. Do you past and future trip often? Which one are you more focused on? And how did this exercise in surrender work for you?

Sending lots of love from my heart to yours. Have a beautiful Holiday, not missing a moment, and as always take care of you.

Love Love Love


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  1. I was not happy at my job, it was not a happy place, or even a place where one could feel appreciated, and it was a long hour drive from my home. I could not access my retirement funds, which I could use more now than when I am retirement age because I have another retirement coming. So, Terri, I QUIT! I went back to substitute teaching, this time with no agenda, just a job needed. I love it, I love not driving, I love not living in my head for 2 hours a day on that drive. I love not fearing the wintery roads. I love the energy of the kids and the change of duties each day. I love being home earlier when the sun is still up, and being able to use my retirement to make my home be that which I will be happy to retire in. I love seeing my grandkids at school almost every day and being home for them after school, and being able to help my other daughter with her day care needs while her baby sitter is on vacation. I think it is the best decision I have made in a long time. Thank you for giving me the courage to dive into this happiness.


    1. Lynn,
      Thank you so much for sharing your journey here with us! You have done an excellent job at taking control over your own life. It is amazing how different you feel when you let your DESIRE drive your decisions rather than FEAR. Keep up the great work and thank you for being a part of this community. xo

  2. Thank you Terri for this wonderful advice and I promise to stomp this week! I guess I will warn my husband first what my stomping will be all about,…. God bless you and your family… May you continue to touch many lives 2014

  3. Terri,
    Listening to you is always calming and helps put me back on track. This is a great tip that I really needed to hear right now. Thanks so much for all you do. Happy Holidays!
    Be well,

  4. Dear Terri,
    I really do appreciate your tune up tips! They are always so helpful and often remind me how simple it can be to feel completely in the here and now. Thanks a lot and have a beautiful Holiday.

  5. Interesting insight. We likely cannot change reality in any case. Making the most of the situation chnages both perception and reality.

    Thanks and have a great Christmas season

  6. Thanks for the needed reminder and an even bigger thanks for recommended practice- breathe stomp.
    Merry merry to you and your beautiful family .

  7. I love it! Thank you for the visual of flipping over and floating. I spent much of my youth in water so this is easy for me to actualize on many levels. About a year ago, I made a shift when I decided to stop and say “Yes, and…” Instead of “No, but…” and it’s helped me surrender to the moment in a new way! Now I can see myself flipping over and floating while I say it. I can even add in a memory of my oldest son flipping over in the water and saying, “Look, mom… I’m doing a starfish!” I needed this today… Thank you! Blessings to you and yours!!! 🙂

  8. thank you for speaking on the fact that surrender is not a bad thing. I appreciate the encouragement and continue to do it in baby steps everyday.

    Happy holidays!

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