It’s Black Friday in the US this week and I was inspired to give you a beautiful practice you can use throughout this holiday season and beyond (no matter where you live!) to really help alleviate any stress or overwhelm you might be experiencing and come back home to YOU. Consider this your alternative to the consumerism craziness. ?
There’s something about giving thanks for all of our blessings as we celebrate Thanksgiving one day…and then the very next day freaking out and trying to get to the store at the ass crack of dawn to buy all of the things. It feels out of alignment for me. (Plus, I’m not getting up at 4 AM to purchase anything in my life…um…ever.)
Let me be clear: there’s NO judgment around this coming from me. If you’re into Black Friday sales and it brings you joy and real satisfaction to get out there, then go you!
But if you’re feeling pressured and less than merry this time of year, I wanted to create something to help you honor your own feelings, sink into gratitude and create more peace and space for YOU this holiday.
I’m walking you through a very special guided Gratitude Meditation at the end of the episode, so be sure to watch or listen in by clicking below.
This time of year can be rough for people for many different reasons, despite what the holiday songs on the radio and the Hallmark Channel movies would have you believe.
There’s so much messaging in our culture that we should be super psyched and happy during the holidays, and that can leave you feeling disconnected, disappointed, or overwhelmed if you’re not in step with “the most wonderful time of the year.”
It’s really important to honor how we’re really feeling. The holidays for so many of us can bring up feelings of sadness, especially if you’ve experienced trauma or lost someone important to you. You might feel, as I did, when we lost my niece tragically a few years back, that it would be somehow disloyal to her to celebrate. Or perhaps this time of year brings up painful memories or you might not be where you want to be in your life and for some reason, this time of reflection can shed a harsh light on what or who is not in your life currently. I want to tell you that it’s ok for you to feel however you do. Honor your feelings, self-soothe in a healthy way, and try to focus on gratitude for every little thing that brings you comfort or joy.
Gratitude can really be an antidote for whatever ails you, emotionally. It really is a healing balm for your mind and spirit in so many ways, so I want you to ask yourself:
How can I be grateful for what’s right in my life right now?
Even if there is a ton of crap that’s wrong there’s always something to be grateful for.
I invite you to explore some of my ideas below for how to make some shifts this holiday and then download the guided gratitude meditation I created for you and give it a go.
- If you’re feeling pressure to buy all of the things and want to dial down the consumerism that’s so rampant (especially in the US) this time of year, choosing to give to others can bring some balance back. Volunteer to prepare or serve a meal, donate gifts and food to families in need or spend time with an elderly neighbor who otherwise might be alone this holiday. We are all a part of this human family and if you can help another person you should. Adding value to someone else’s life is one of the easiest and quickest ways to feel and DO good.
- If you’re feeling blue, acknowledge your emotions and let your heart lead you to the right way for you to spend the holidays. Give yourself permission to choose to do something different this year that’s aligned with how you actually want to feel. Many churches in the Western Christian tradition offer a “Blue Christmas” service to recognize and acknowledge painful feelings of loss and sadness and for attendees to express their grief or struggles in a safe and sacred space. It’s traditionally held around the longest night of the year, or the Winter Solstice, December 21st.
- Make space and time (less than 10 minutes!) to practice this Gratitude Meditation each day through the holiday. You can create a little zen den, which is just a cozy quiet spot where you can sit comfortably and feel grounded and peaceful. Grab an essential oil that makes you feel calm, light a candle, breathe deeply and take this time for you. I promise you that if you commit to a daily practice you will begin to see and feel a shift.
I hope that you enjoyed this and that you can find ways this season to tap into your feelings of gratitude. We’ve created an audio download of just the guided meditation that’s my gift to you, and you can get that right here. Thank you so much for sharing, for watching, for being here, for caring about your mental health and for caring about The Terri Cole Show.
Speaking of gratitude, YOU are on my gratitude list!
I am thrilled to share that we just passed a million downloads for The Terri Cole Show. What?! That’s amazing! Please know that I am SO thankful for you and for your support and I SO hope that this is adding value to YOUR life because as you know, you are IT for me.
My mission and calling in this life is to lessen any suffering you may have by sharing tools and strategies with you so that you can really live the most empowered, the most joy-filled and the most authentic life that you possibly can…because you are amazing.
So thank you so much again from the bottom of my heart. If you liked this episode and the gratitude meditation, please share it on your social media platforms and if you’re not subscribed to the podcast or to my YouTube channel please do so, so you don’t miss a thing. The more the merrier! ?
I hope that if you do celebrate Thanksgiving, that you are able to feel present, grateful and full of peace and love, and as always take care of you.