Jack White and Karen Elson Creating A New Normal?

The beautiful invitation implies a well thought out celebration with live music and dancing. At a glace you might assume it to be another celebrity re-commitment ceremony. Upon closer inspection (view) the beautiful black and pink invitation with brocade corners and the shindig details, is actually an invite to celebrate Jack White and Karen Elson’s impending divorce.

I L*O*V*E* this notion and hope it catches on as a trend. This couple is obviously awake enough in their marriage to celebrate and honor what they have created, despite the fact it is no longer working. They are doing a service to their children by declaring their continued collaboration as a family with their bond of devotion to the kids as the focal point. The divorce statistic in the US is over 50% and the innocent victims of divorcing badly are the kids.

Their joint press release states, “We remain dear and trusted friends and co-parents to our wonderful children Scarlett and Henry Lee. We feel so fortunate for the time we have shared and the time we will continue to spend both separately and together watching our children grow. In honor of that time shared, we are throwing a divorce party. An evening together in Nashville to re-affirm our friendship and celebrate the past and future with close friends and family.”

Divorce will always be a hot button issue for many as it strikes a cultural and religious cord. But the reality is that more than half of the couples that marry will divorce so I believe it is about time we figure out how to do it with less collateral damage and more integrity. Jack White and Karen Elson have shared a better more evolved blue print for divorcing. The New Normal for separating without severing is here.

I see a cottage industry being born.

What are your thoughts?

Love Love Love

Terri
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  1. I think it is great that the couple is divorcing on such good terms. It is definitely better for the children that the parents separate and let the children, family and friends know it is good terms. I agree with Vic that the celebration is not the best idea but love that they are declaring to everyone the mutual decision they made for the good of their family.

  2. I LOVE this idea! My ex-husband and I set a new standard within our respective families and among our friends for what a congenial divorce looks like. To this day, we remain better friends than we ever were during the time we were married. I knew that my daughters desperately needed both of their parents and should never have to choose sides, so I deliberately chose to make our divorce as pleasant as possible.

    I have observed untold friends, family members and clients who have slogged through terribly bitter divorces where the children, the assets and each other are all used as weapons to hurt each other. The collateral damage is extremely high for everyone involved.

    Life is too short to hold a grudge or remain in conflict for any time at all. If you want and need to move on, just do so without the hate and discontent. If you need to figure our how to get over the negative feelings you have for your spouse, find a good counselor or life coach that can help you sort through it all and find some relief – immediately! Focusing on the good times your had together is a good way to stay positive and begin to work through what wasn’t working. Maintaining your personal integrity through a relationship breakup is the path of being a Master of Consciousness.

    Thank you so much for sharing this great article, Teri!

    1. Yes indeed Michelle!
      Thank you for sharing your experience and your AWESOME words of wisdom!

      Two of my favorite things in one sentence INTEGRITY and MASTER OF CONSCIOUSNESS you my dear are an illuminated women after my own evolving heart!!
      Love Love Love
      Terri

  3. Lisa,
    Thank you for sharing here. My parents split when I was 13 and I know we were all better for it. As long as my mother was happy, I felt secure. Sending you love and light on your journey.
    Love Love Love,
    Terri

  4. Great article. I myself am going through a fairly new separation…and my husband and I remain good friends. We’re just on a totally different plane right now and I think we’ll both be truer to ourselves and better parents if we’re in separate households. Thank you for this article.

  5. Astute point Vic!
    I was so enamored with the idea of celebrity couple showing a divorce practice that does not sacrifice the children that i never really dialed into the “celebration” aspect. Another question to be asked in light of this line of thinking is -what is the message to the children about love and marriage? No firefight -just thoughtful questions-which i totally appreciate! Let the conversation continue…
    love love love
    terri

  6. I think the notion of preventing collateral damage is extremely important when it comes to divorces involving kids. If the divorced couple commit themselves to making sure their egos don’t get in the way of the greater good, which is the healthy development of the kids, then their actions will speak very clearly and over time will be understood and appreciated by the kids as they grow older. A ‘party’ celebrating the divorce sends a different message, IMHO, and instead sounds narcissistic. Sorry, can’t buy this one. The Tao speaks of the most effective leader being the one who’s leadership is least noticed. Likewise, a successful parting is the one where the commitment to the welfare of the kids speaks volumes over a superficial event. Besides, do people get married with the intention of divorcing? I don’t think so. Women don’t become pregnant with the intention of aborting. Events/choices like these are never joyful (even if relief is a byproduct), but they happen and they require healing and learning from the experience. Leave the parties to birthdays and holidays. Not seeking to create a firefight here, but there’s a narcissism at work here that is being ignored.

  7. i wish my parents had done this when i was a kid! i think it’s great also that they’re not holding on to a marriage that isn’t working ‘for the kids’ (kids don’t like seeing their parents miserable and growing up with warring parents is not nice), that they’re stepping in and being honest that things aren’t working, as well as celebrating the things that brought them together. often divorce acts like a crap-stirrer and brings all the horrible stuff to the surface, rather than being a respectful chapter-closer. this is a very mature way to handle divorce & i totally take my hat off to them

    1. Well said Sarah!
      Staying together for the kids in misery just teaches children that L*O*V*E and P*A*I*N go together.
      We know they don’t have to 😉
      love love love
      terri

  8. Living from the essence of love creates this kind of beautiful inspired action. I am on a very similar journey as this couple. Wonderful to spread this kind of article. People need to hear that when you take action from a place of love, magic unfolds in all areas- even in divorce. Who says divorce has to be bad? That is a limiting belief created from a society who knows nothing of your personal relationships. Thank you!

    1. Neerja-
      Totally agree and good for you for expanding the idea of what is possible! Yes L*O*V* is all there is…even in divorce this can be so.
      love love love
      terri

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