hyper positivity

Do you consider yourself a positive person actively looking for the good in situations, circumstances, and people? Being a silver lining detective can be great and can also be a way to protect yourself from negative feelings or having to initiate a difficult conversation.

I know this to be true from personal experience. In my younger life, before I was psychologically healthy, hyper-positivity was how I got by. I understood the benefits and power of positive thinking and longed to feel true empowerment, but didn’t. I did experience the downside of hyper-positivity by denying what needed to happen because I was afraid of rejection. It became a means of ‘spiritual bypassing.” I used spirituality or kindness as an excuse to avoid having the hard conversations, asking for a raise or confronting other’s bad behavior. I told myself that I was taking the spiritual high road (I wasn’t). Hyper-positivity can be used as a way to avoid the real self-help work. That work is complicated, messy and at times painful but will actually yield results if you stay the course (which I eventually did.) Bypassing will not.
In this week’s Real Love Revolution video, I cover:

  • The downside to hyper-positivity (spiritual bypassing and magical thinking)
  • How we use positivity as a defense mechanism
  • How hyper-positivity is keeping you from being authentic
  • How to create balanced feelings in your life rather than relying on hyper-positivity


I am certainly not discounting positivity and optimism – having an authentically optimistic outlook on life raises your energetic vibration and is still one of my most powerful tools for being happy in my life. On the other hand, using positivity to avoid speaking truthfully equates to living inauthentically. The key is to not let your positivity create an illusion of control so great that you abandon your truth for the bright, sunny, easier (and less honest) path.
Balancing positivity with your truth is the key to authenticity. Learning to draw boundaries with ease and grace and honor yourself by speaking authentically lessens the need to hide behind hyper-positivity. So much of the time FEAR is what drives hyper-positivity. And eventually, passive aggressiveness becomes inevitable from constantly denying your true feelings. According to Freud, feelings are like smoke in a fireplace and no matter how much paper you stuff down the flue (denying true feelings), the smoke will find it’s way out anyway. When your feelings “find their way out anyway”, it is confusing to you and those around. This creates displaced aggression and does not generally solve issues.
Take the questionnaire below right now to find out if you are hyper-positive and what actions you can take to transform this behavior. Living a healthy balanced life includes experiencing an array of emotions like sadness, anger, and grief along with joy, bliss and happiness.
Drop me a comment here on the blog and let me know what resonated with you after watching the video above.
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And as always, take care of YOU.

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  1. Wow this video has literally is the key I have been I have looking for my wife and ran into a separation do to my addiction problems and she is seeking counseling for a yoga teacher that is brain washed her and she is making her make descions that is indangering my son and she’s not dealing her anger thank you

    1. Hi Chris,
      I’m so glad this resonated for you, and I’m holding space with so much compassion for you and your wife ❤️

  2. I was looking for the questioner spoken about in the video on hyper positivity. I was recently told by a friend that I suffer from this and its holding me back. So I’m trying to see what’s what with this. Thank you for any response.

    1. Hi Mary,
      Thank you for asking! You can get it at the bottom of the page by clicking on the button that says download now. If for some reason that button isn’t working for you, you can email support@terricole.com and request it and we’ll make sure you get it ❤️

  3. Hello, I so much appreciate this video. Only now I can see why I was too often looking on the bright side of life, wouldn’t come up myself with an idea that at some level it’s not positive anymore… Thank you for this article and all your work! XO PS Is the questionnaire you’re mentioning available anyhow? Thanks in advance 🙂

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