The irony is that if you’re reading this, you’re online. But, let’s talk about the dangers of being too connected to our technology and virtual world.

Are you addicted to technology? How many hours a day do you spend on your computer, phone, tablet? Or is it easier for me to ask you how many minutes a day you do NOT spend on your computer, phone, or tablet?

Let’s look at some of the problems with being digitally over connected.

6 Great Reasons to Unplug

According to Alice G. Walton on, below are the top six reasons to mindfully use technology while unplugging on purpose, at times, for maximum quality of life.

1. It Might Just Save Your Job (and your marriage)

In today’s competitive workplace, you might feel that being available any ol’ time of day gives you an advantage. Not so. When you are constantly replying to emails from bosses and co-workers after hours, you are not being present to your spouse, children, friends, and YOU. If you are not properly resting and recharging your batteries, you are more likely to burn out and be less productive, which makes you LESS competitive in the workplace.

2. It Will Improve Your Concentration and Present Moment Awareness

If you pride yourself on being a multitasker, chances are you’re actually doing less than those who focus on one thing at a time, and you also tend to be more impulsive (e.g. online shopping followed by buyers remorse when the package arrives in the mail). Again, how this behavior impacts your personal relationships is a key question. How present can you be in a conversation with your children if you are simultaneously listening to stories about their day and putting the final touches on the your quarterly sales wrap up?

3. There Are Better Ways to Feel Good

The internet seems to be the new substance to abuse. Many people feel they MUST check their phone every time an alert sounds informing them they have been “liked” on Facebook or mentioned on Twitter. We’ve pretty much become like Pavlov’s dogs. An interesting study published in shows that “intermittent reinforcement” (anticipation of a reward that comes with just enough frequency)—in the form of texts, tweets, and various other social media—releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter in the brain responsible for pleasure. But like any hit of addictive substance, the pleasure is short lived and leaves you craving more.

4. Your Facebook Friends and Twitter Followers Do Not Replace the Real Deal

Social media does not make us more social. In fact, too much living on social media can create the reverse effect. Your behavior online in not always in line with how you would respond or react to other humans in a face-to-face situation. The anonymity of social media can lead to increased development of the false self or worst self. A wonderful spoken word poet and pal, Marshall ‘Souful’ Jones, has a three-minute performance piece from TEDx Montreal that eloquently speaks to this exact phenomenon called Touch Screen.

5. Your Bed Will Thank You

I’m a big believer in getting quantity AND quality sleep, and one of the biggest culprits I found in taking longer to fall asleep is not only the stimulation from channel surfing on tv and catching up on emails, but also the light emitted from electronic devices. Try this: One hour before you go to sleep, stop sitting in front of the computer and TV and switch off all electronic devices. Look around your bedroom: the alarm clock that glows in bright red, the charging indicator on your cell phone, the monitor on your computer, the DVD clock and timer. Each of these takes a small toll on your sleep as each little bit of light can keep you from reaching deep restorative sleep. Cover or move the electronics. Light can disrupt your circadian rhythm and your pineal gland’s production of melatonin and serotonin.

6. You’ll Be A More Considerate Person

Are you THAT person in the movie theatre who actually answers your phone? Do you meet up with pals you haven’t seen in ages, only to stare at your phone the entire dinner? You would not whip out a crossword puzzle to do at a dinner out with friends, even if you are a little bored, because that would be considered incredibly rude. Please place texting in the middle of a meal in the same category. It may be increasingly acceptable behavior, but it comes at a cost and does not improve the quality of anything, in my opinion.

The bottom line is technology is convenient and necessary and is definitely our new normal, but, too often, we are so distracted by our computers, phones, and tablets that we become disconnected from our own lives. It’s so easy to miss out on really special moments right in front of us because we are mentally somewhere else.

Putting limits on your tech habits and giving your full attention to the present moment can help you fully “experience” your own life.

I want to challenge you to get honest about how much time you spend plugged in. Does it make you sweat for me to even suggest you be less tech addicted?

Try to create a sacred space for yourself every day that is free from technology and allows you to reconnect with your own life. For example, I do my very best to make Sunday a tech-free day and turn it all off while eating dinner with my husband and before bed and don’t turn it on until I’ve been awake for two hours.

I’m interested in your thoughts. I think this is a very common issue, and would love to hear your challenges and solutions.

I hope you have an amazing week, plugged into REAL life, and, as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love



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  1. After two years on social network I am depleted emotionally, mentally and monetarily. My perception of what is real and what is not real is clouded in disbelief that I could believe or fall for a scam. I went into denial
    I being compassionate and a giving person fell foot line and sinker for one who stole actor Billy Holden’s pictures, posed as another name…needed monetary rescue, then disaster happenings kept occurring needing more money. We will meet’ soon’ or ‘soonest’ as typed. Now know what I should have known then..

  2. I do not have my phone hooked up the an internet service because I do not want to be “that connected” to the world. I love my quiet time sans electronics. It upsets me when I am with my daughter or granddaughter and they are constantly checking their phones and/or texting back an answer. I cannot imagine the texting is for a life or death situation. It makes me sad when I am out with my male friend and he comments on a table of single women (sometimes 4 or more) who are not speaking to each other but are texting and surfing the internet. He usually comments “Look at them, notice any male friends with them?”

  3. Terri,

    Great topic! Last week, I spent time working on this. First, I started unsubscribing to lots of sites that email me. This quickly reduced my email inbox. If I want their products, I’ll go to their site. Next, I changed my email settings to not automatically check for new email every time I open it. I moved it to auto check every 2 hours. This slows down my response time to start getting people untrained from my rapid response. I also turned off the alert sound on both my computer and phone for email. I’m struggling with my habit of incessantly checking but, as I’m receiving less, it will come. It is helping me be more present. There are some great articles online for anyone interested:

  4. Terri, I feel ya, girl! This makes total sense to me and I’ve been feeling that way lately. I use RescueTime to see how much time I’m spending on the computer and how much of that time is productive. If only I spent that time with the people who are actually present in my day-to-day life! Or if I spent it offline doing other things I enjoy!
    That said, most of my time online is for business purposes and educational purposes, with maybe 3 hours of talking to friends/family on Facebook/Twitter per week.

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