Hello Fearless Inventory Takers!
(This is an tweaked excerpt from my first solo book project coming out in early 2012, Live Fearless and Free-The 8 Keys to Unlocking the Life of your Dreams with Ease! You are the first peeps to sneak a peek!)
I first learned the value of Taking a Fearless Inventory three months before my college graduation. I had always been a big drinker from a big drinking family and since college is a time when even NON-alcoholics, DRINK alcoholically, my liver was pretty pickled by senior year. I had been seeing a therapist for about a year when she told me she thought my drinking was a problem to which I defensively exclaimed, ”Well then everyone in my life has a drinking problem” to which she calmly replied, “Well I am not treating everyone in your life and if you do not seek help with a 12 Step Program I will have to terminate our relationship.” SNAP! Was my therapist breaking up with me?? Holy Crap is it that bad?? I asked myself. What I actually felt surprised me. Pure RELIEF. So all gussied up in my 80’s finest: stirrup pants, t-shirt with shoulder pads velcro-ed to my bra straps, gobs of Stage Light makeup, enormous main of red, permed hair in full effect with big plastic neon hoop earrings, I found my way to the basement of a church in Syosset Long Island. ‘Lookin’ good and definitely NOT like and ALCHOHOLIC’, I reassured my review reflection before going in .
I sat near the door so I could smoke my Parliament 100’s considerately, when I was approached by a beautiful similarly shellacked, big haired women about ten years my senior. Noticing I was a newbie she asked what brought me to the meeting. I said my therapist threatened to break up with me if I didn’t attend at least one. To be polite I asked her the same question. She looked me straight in the eyes and with and with a calm that un-nerved me, stated, “I killed a six year old boy in a drunk driving accident.” “Wow I am so sorry. That seriously sucks”, was my shocked and not so sensitive reply. “Yes it does and I have had to figure out how to live everyday of my life knowing I killed someone’s child and broke a mother’s heart.”
Her answer inspired my first Fearless Inventory and changed the course of my life.
I stayed until the end of the meeting, fighting back a tsunami of tears that threatened to overwhelm me. When I finally got to my car I was bawling so hard I couldn’t drive so I sat there listening to Whitney Houston’s, The Greatest Love of All (which of course inspired more bawling) and felt so GRATEFUL it hurt. I made a pact with the universal powers that be at that moment that I would not drink again. I was so ecstatic that the tragic story was not mine and so keenly aware of how easily it could have been, something shifted permanently. I still think of that generous angel who shared the story that lead to the wake up that inspired my transformation.
Once I stopped drinking things changed. I dropped 25 pounds in 30 days, discovered my cheekbones and moved to NYC after graduation. I took an honest inventory of all areas of my life. Writing down what I wanted more of and what I wanted less of in each area. I stayed in therapy and got dialed into the self-empowerment movement. I realized that in order to create the life of my dreams I had to be brutally honest about what was not working and what limiting beliefs were blocking my potential. The rest is history. Taking a Fearless Inventory was a game changer for me so I want to share it with you.
Start by writing a list of the main areas of your life: Career, Love, Spirituality, Health and Wellness, Finances, Family and Other. Make two lists for each category: Want More and Want Less. Keep the Want More list and burn the Want Less list with an empathic witness by your side. Declare what you want and FEEL the feelings of already having it. Visualize it, feel it, believe it and you will bring it into being. Open your eyes for SYCHRO-TASTIC situations and meaningful coincidences that start to show up, then take action.
By taking your own Fearless Inventory and Daring to Declare what you truly want, you will harness the mind-blowing power of your intention and tap into the infinite possibilities of your life.
I know you can do it. I did.
As always I will be cheering you on like a wild maniac!!
Love Love Love