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Resisting Change

June 16, 2013 //  by terricoleny//  12 Comments

Do you hate change? Does change create anxiety for you?

Although there are change seekers among us, it is more common for people to resist change. Stepping into the unknown isn’t usually at the top most people’s Things I Love Most list.

But it is completely unavoidable. We can become so attached to the familiar that the health food store being out of “our” brand of gluten-free cereal can create stress. It’s reassuring to know what is in our bowls!

Here’s the truth: Your physical body is constantly and literally changing. According to How Stuff Works, you will shed around one million skin cells today alone. And it’s not just your skin. Every cell in your body, inside and out, from the top of your head to the tips of your toes, regenerates. Every breath you take changes the molecular structure of the air around you. Every time you eat, the food changes form and impacts your body.

My dear friend davidji says:

“Change is like breath: It isn’t part of the process; it is the process.”

(This was a game changer for me, personally. Thanks dji!)

In reality, the only thing we can count on is change. There is something very powerful and liberating about surrendering to change—it is where transformation and evolution reside.

As we are all energy, resisting change creates physical and psychological constriction inspired by fear, and this energy blocks the flow of our abundance. In other words, when you are resistant to change, you are less likely to seek out new opportunities and less able to see the ones that are surrounding you. The more you fight change, the more constricted you become, which can lead to depression and feelings of hopelessness and loneliness.

As you learn to accept and embrace change, you will start to see the infinite possibilities of your life in that space of not knowing exactly how something will play out. This is where having faith and using the power of your intention comes into play.

If you have been resistant to change, I invite you to re-frame it as part of the adventure that is life and maybe even embrace it as part of the joy of being alive!

Share your experiences with change. Is it a struggle for you now? Did it used to be, but you overcame it? If so, how?

Have an amazing week, embracing life and its mystery, and, as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love

Terri


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  1. Yvonne

    June 17, 2013 at 8:28 am

    I like knowing what is happening so change and I need to become more friendly. I’ll aim this week, as I go through a health challenge, to be ok with where I currently am. Thanks babe!!

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  2. Cathie

    June 17, 2013 at 11:54 am

    Change and the anxiety that I feel are paralyzing to me but thanks for the words of wisdom above.

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  3. Marg

    June 17, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    I know that change is life. We become stagnant without it. I am always trying to recreate myself. So that is change too. I resist the change that I don’t have a hand in creating and don’t do so well with that. I am surely not a go with the flow girl. Well, since I can change how I react to change I will give it a whirl, no matter what it is. The new me?

    m.

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  4. Adele

    June 17, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    Well I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in March so I am having a crash course in change and adapting to change. I try to remember that the only constant in life is change. And for the big ones, I am more comfortable saying “I need time to absorb this” and have learned to ask for (more) help.

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    • Terri Cole

      June 26, 2013 at 11:55 am

      Yes a health challenge is like getting your PhD in CHANGE! (In a crash course that is) Keep up the positive attitude and know that we are sending you healing light <3

      Reply
  5. Maria Salomao-Schmidt

    June 17, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    Beautiful Terri,

    I love how on the same page we are. The breath analogy is exactly what I first thought when I read your questions, “Do you hate change? Does change create anxiety for you?” There are times when I wish things did not change, shift or end, like today when I was kissing my five year old over and over again all over her face as she was hugging me. I wish I could hold to that moment forever! If it did not end… well, even something that delicious is only wonderful because it has a beginning and an end. Plus, in letting go and moving on, you get the gift of new adventures to come into your life!

    Loved reading this beautiful Terri! SOOOOOOO timely!

    Great big hugs,
    Mariaaaaaaaaaaaa
    🙂

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  6. DeanBean

    June 18, 2013 at 5:18 am

    I LOVE CHANGE!! It will always remind me of a beautiful Holiday!
    Stimulating a Happy emotional state to change to the remembrance of a Holiday is rejuvenating!

    Blessings and Love xx

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    • Terri Cole

      June 26, 2013 at 11:53 am

      Thanks for sharing that beautiful re-frame on fear for many readers, Dean! So glad you are here <3

      Reply
  7. Jennie

    June 24, 2013 at 9:16 pm

    Many years ago a friend gave me this Lenten prayer – it has been a guiding force in my life. Hope you enjoy it too !

    40th Day of Lent March 29, 1975
    “The Lord your God will bless you in all that you do.” Deut. 15:18

    It is true that the most difficult things to accept often hold the greatest blessings. One thing that is often difficult to accept is change. Yet haven’t the changes in my life been the most instrumental in bringing me increased good, growth, and unfoldment? Then why do I not meet change fearlessly and graciously?

    Today I think about making changes. While I may prefer a habitual routine and familiar places and faces, change is inevitable.

    I can greet the prospect of making changes a little more cordially by remembering that always the journey of my life is forward and progressive. And as I grow and progress, changes come. It cannot be otherwise.

    So I will not say, “This is not the time for change,” for this may be the equivalent of saying: “This is not the time for new blessing to come into my life. This is not the time for growth, for something better.”

    Now may be just the time for change.
    Now may be just the time for new blessings.

    Thank you, God, for the realization that all change in my life is perfectly timed. All change in my life is in accord with Your law. There is nothing to fear. Always I go to meet my good.

    By making an inner preparation for change, I gear myself to the idea of change. I am able to let go misgivings. I am able to meet change with faith and courage. I am able to reap the blessing that is in it for me…

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    • Terri Cole

      June 26, 2013 at 11:42 am

      Wow I love this Jennie! Thank you for your inspiring words and your beautiful RE-FRAME on fear. Yes to blessings! <3

      Reply
  8. Rose Martine

    December 3, 2019 at 12:51 am

    I simply wanted to say thanks again. I’m not certain the things I would’ve carried out in the absence of these points provided by you regarding such field. It was before a real daunting difficulty in my view, nevertheless considering the very skilled style you treated the issue took me to jump with fulfillment. Extremely grateful for the advice and then expect you comprehend what a great job that you’re putting in training the rest all through your site. Most likely you’ve never met all of us.

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    • Terri Cole

      December 3, 2019 at 11:21 am

      Thank you for sharing and for your kind words.

      Reply

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