Today I am breaking down how to negotiate difficult relationships, and how to set boundaries with impossible people, including narcissists. In this week’s Real Love Revolution video, I cover:
- What a boundary is
- How to know your boundary style
- The benefits of drawing healthy boundaries
- Strategies and language for drawing boundaries with difficult people
Drawing boundaries effectively is actually learning an entirely new language. Think about who you are trying to draw boundaries with in your life now. If you have a narcissist in your life, they will react very negatively to you trying to set a boundary. Narcissists believe they are above rules and feel entitled to getting what they want. So when you try to set a boundary, they will do whatever they can to try to dissuade you. Drawing boundaries with difficult people is not for the weak at heart, and you have to look at your own style of drawing boundaries to know what will work for you. What kind of relationship do you have with these difficult people? What is your part, your role, in this relationship? Oftentimes when people are in these relationships, they give up because it’s easier to let the other person control every situation than to push back. But when you give in all the time to another person, you really lose yourself. It is your job to take care of yourself and to be clear about what you want.
The truth is, drawing boundaries is an act of love in relationships. When you draw a boundary, you are sharing valuable data about your authentic self. If the person is healthy enough to be flexible and really loves you, they will care about how you feel, even if they are initially defensive. And you can draw boundaries with kindness and love.
There are a few ways to set boundaries with difficult people. Click the button below to download my Boundary Language Tips & Visualization Exercise to learn how. The crucial element to setting successful boundaries is consistency, which can be challenging. You have to learn the boundary basics and then use them over and over again to keep your boundaries firm, yet fair. You need courage to set boundaries, and I know you have that in you!
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And as always, take care of YOU.
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