She was exhausted. She was stressed and overwhelmed. She was addicted to caffeine, nicotine and adrenaline. She was successful. She had a short fuse and was unhappy often. She worked nonstop, on both coasts. She traveled first class and rubbed elbows with celebrities. She was considered successful. Her bank balance increased as the hours she slept decreased. She got sick. She was done.

She was me.

You may be familiar with my burn out story but it bears repeating. Being overworked and less than happy, while still being considered successful remains one of the primary problems my clients battle. It saddens me to see other people living with the same, ‘no cost too high’ mentality as their life passes them. I know what they are missing. And once a moment is gone; it is gone.

Maybe you consider yourself ‘successful,’ which is great. However, I want you to check in and honestly ask yourself if you are living your version of success, or that of someone else. If you want our society’s version of success just turn on the tv, the radio, or pick up a magazine. It’s not hard to identify what society and the media think constitutes success; a hot bod, a fast car, loads of cash, and designer everything. In fact , it is impossible to escape these symbols of success, since they are everywhere.

The message within the message is, if you acquire all of the above, then and only then, will you have ‘made’ it.

Most of you know that this is not actually the case. You know that the acquisition of things doesn’t equal success and that they certainly don’t bring you happiness. (And I am not anti-stuff at all, just saying stuff does not equal the whole deal). Yet so many of you are still striving to get it all done, so you can have more. When you are constantly bombarded with a societal idea of what your life should look like, it becomes imperative that you ask yourself ….

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There is nothing wrong with wanting and enjoying the abundance that monetary success provides, as long as you are enjoying yourself, your relationships and your real life. It is important to question societal norms and what you are being fed by the media, so you are clear about your own unique and individual idea of success.

Depending on the person, success can mean, a Prius or a Mercedes, freedom to travel or freedom to be self employed. To some it means a zillion dollars in the bank and others define success by owning as little as possible. True success is as individual as we are. The important common denominator is how our version of success makes us feels. Once we know how we want to feel, we have a criteria on which to base decisions.

At the ‘top’ of my game in the entertainment world I felt conflicted. I wasn’t helping people in the way I wanted to, and although I looked successful I felt unsatisfied. I wanted happiness, balance, and to be of service. I found ways to slip these values in through the cracks while working as a talent agent, but it wasn’t enough. I wanted to do more and feel better. So I left and went to grad school to become a psychotherapist.

Making a massive life change can be really scary. I am not asking you to change anything. I am simply asking you to honestly look at how you’re living and working and see if that matches up to your version of success based on how you want to feel.

Success can actually be quite simple. You can have success and get the things you want with more ease, grace, and enjoyment. But first and foremost you have to have real insight into your authentic motivation for success and realize, it does not have to be so complicated. That is why I have created a free call for you.

Tonight January 27 at 8 pm EST | 5 pm PST

Join me for

 The Secrets to Success Simplified

How to Get It All Done

(Without Undoing Yourself In the Process)


Life doesn’t magically transform when you reach a number in your checking account or get the corner office. It’s important to enjoy every moment of the journey getting to that destination. When you work towards success in a way that feels true to you, you can allow more and force less. Less stress = more joy. I want you to be successful AND joyful.

This week I invite you to gain clarity around your definition of success. Share with me in the comments below what it looks like and more importantly what it feels like. I look forward to hearing from you and I hope to connect with you on the call tonight!

Have a wonderful week and as always take care of you.

Love Love Love



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  1. Terri,
    Many thanks for your timely tune up tips (Look at that alliteration…). My theme this year is CREATE, and it makes perfect sense to create the kind of success that I want on my own terms. It looks like using my multilingual language skills to travel, read, write, experience other cultures, promote equal education, and be of service. It feels creative, joyful, graceful, compassionate and global. I’ve no idea what the job description actually looks like, but I find myself more willing to let go of that and more willing to embrace the uncertainty, even though it scares me. Thanks once again, and Happy Monday.
    Love to you,

  2. Terri,
    Thanks so much for your timely tune up tips (Look at that alliteration!). My theme this year is “CREATE” and it’s only fitting that I work to create my own version of success. For me success feels graceful, joyful and enlivening. It feels like the freedom to travel, use my language skills, promote equal education for women and girls, write, read, and serve others. It feels like getting paid to be myself. Thank you, and I’m looking for to learning more tonight.
    Love to you,

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