does everyone cheat

Does everyone cheat?

The statistics I found, which varied significantly from study to study, indicate that the answer to the above questions is, no. Approximately one quarter of married women and half of the married men will step out on their spouse at least once in their lives. Keeping in mind, infidelity statistics are generally self-reported so, therefore, they’re not exactly hard scientific facts.

More important than the statistics themselves is the underlying reasons people cheat. A family history of infidelity can create an underlying compulsion to repeat a behavioral pattern that may remain unconscious. Couples with incompatible sexual appetites or lack of communication can also be vulnerable to one or the other person cheating.

Being aware of the reasons why people cheat (and why you or your partner might be inclined to do so) is the first step in preventing it. I explore this and more in this week’s Real Love Revolution video, plus I cover:

  • Why People Cheat
  • Ways to Protect Your Relationship (So No One Feels the Need to Cheat)
  • Who is Likely to Cheat (Looking at Family Patterns)
  • The Type of Work Necessary to Prevent Infidelity

It is possible to set yourself and your partner up for success in your relationship so that neither person feels the need to cheat. Feeling lonely or angry with your partner, but never talking it out, could lead to acting it out (and possibly cheating it out), so talk to each other! Check in regularly and make sure that you are communicating and on the same page about your wants, needs, and desires so both people feel fulfilled. If sexual desires are mismatched in a marriage, consider seeing a sex therapist or a couples therapist to talk out how you can meet in the middle. And if it comes down to simply wanting out of your relationship, there are much simpler and cleaner ways to end it.

Cheating is a symptom of a bigger problem. You won’t magically know how to create a vibrant, healthy relationship if you’ve never had one or had one modeled for you. If your parents didn’t have a great relationship or had poor problem-solving skills, that is what you learned. Therapy can teach you the tools to create a better marriage than your parents had. I hope this blog and video provided some insight into why people cheat and how to safeguard your own relationship against it. For more strategies, click the download button below to access the Checklist: How to Keep a Relationship Healthy, so both you and your partner feel connected and satisfied with your relationship.

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  1. Also, why am i on a thread about cheating? i’ve never been cheated on , but I recently found that my dad has been cheating on my mom for years so now I read about it just to find hope that not all people cheat. When you find out your dads a cheatter and he was one oft he most important men in your life, its hard to trust other people .

  2. I totally agree! I think a lot of cheating stems from people bnot being happy with themselves and lack of satisfaction as a result. Its sad to me, but I realize that oftentimes people who cheat really don’t themselvces and tend to have other addictions as well. Stay away from addictive personalities! because the tendency for addictions bleeds into all aspects of life.

    1. I’m sorry you recently learned about your father’s cheating, and I hear you that it can have a ripple effect in your life. I’m here witnessing you with compassion. I’m glad you are here.

  3. The biggest reason for cheating is a lack of emotional connection or the feeling that you’re not appreciated by your partner as much as you deserve. Anyone could resort to cheating as a way to getting everything they lack where they are person even if it means going out of the relationship to achieve that. From an evolutionary perspective, a tendency for an individual to commit an infidelity stems from an attempt to increase the reproductive success at the expense of their partners.

    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here with us. I will add that there are MANY reasons people cheat not just because they feel “lack of emotional connection or the feeling that you’re not appreciated by your partner” and those reasons are usually very unique to the person and the situation. One thing I know for sure- what most people are looking for when they step outside of their committed relationship- they don’t usually find because wherever you go….there you are.

  4. People cheating in relationship just because they find someone more beautiful girl or handsome guy. Or Find someone more financial strong Or Lack of physical intimacy in relationship this will be the main important reasons people cheat in relationship.

  5. Knowing your own and your partner’s attachment styles can warn you if either of you is at risk to cheat. Securely attached partners are probably the 50% who don’t. It’s the rest of who have disordered bonding issues from childhood that determine our capacity for authenticity and intimacy. Secure, anxious-preoccupied, fearful-avoidant or dismissive-avoidant. Which one are you in romantic relationships?

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