Do you have the disease to please? To find out, ask yourself 4 questions:
- Do you say “yes” when you really want to say “no”?
- Do you apologize often not only when you’re not sorry but when you’re angry?
- Do you avoid confrontation at all costs?
- Do you put everyone else’s needs above your own?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you, my dear, have the “disease to please”.
To gain some clarity, take the next 48 hours, to write down every time you exercise any action on the list above. This will give you a clear snapshot of the way you’re functioning.
Remember, being nice, as in authentic acts of kindness are those things we do for others out of genuine concern and interest for their well being. For example, mowing an elderly neighbors yard or volunteering at a soup kitchen. Agreeing to something you do not want to do to avoid a confrontation or saying yes when you really want to say “no”, is not being nice it is being inauthentic and actually dishonest. How can anyone authentically love you if they don’t authentically know you?
And you definitely deserve to be loved authentically. <3
I would love to hear your thoughts, if this tip resonated with you and what the experiment produces.
Have a great week and as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love