Today I’m talking about one of my favorite subjects and one that I’ve been on a bit of a kick about lately: boundaries. How you can manage boundary bullies in your life including narcissists?
It starts with looking at yourself, which I’ve discussed before, but after that you can apply the tips and tricks that I’m sharing in this episode. It’s all about
you have to look at yourself figuring out skills so that you aren’t letting boundary bullies dominate you in your life.
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“You have a right to say no, a right to your own time.” – Terri Cole
Show Notes:
- How to examine your blueprint
- Ask yourself the three q’s
- Stop automatically saying yes
- Why you have to stay calm and state your boundary
- There is power in you deciding how you’ll behave
- Why people will notice if you change
- The importance of clarity
- Say it, mean it, and repeat
- When it’s time to clean house
“When you learn to say no early and often this spares you trauma down the road.” – Terri Cole
Links Mentioned:
- Boundary Language Tips and Visualization Exercise
- Listen to my episode about boundaries at work
- Join the boundary bootcamp group
“I really want to inspire you to be strong and consistent with the same boundary.” – Terri Cole
Boundary Bootcamp – How to Set Boundaries at the Office
I have been boundary setting for nearly 3 years. For the first time in my life – so it’s been a shock to me and the people in my life (middle aged now). Really had the guilt (so so painful) and backlash (which I am getting used to in strange way). Very tired now. Exhausted in fact. I have two more people to deal with – one at work (being blocked accessing my training entitlement) and one is an agent involved in property up keep. So can’t exactly run away, or just saying no more now. Which has been one way that I have dealt with persistent bullies. This has been an awful time. Read so many books on it, but still poorly adept. Internally really stressful and anxiety inducing. Even fearful. All support welcome.
I feel you, Rose. The more you do it the easier it gets but if you are conflict averse -you will never “like” dealing with these types of bullies. The important thing is that you are DOING it! Celebrate your wins and be gentle with yourself during this process please.