Are you a giving person? Do you find that you are a magnet for takers?
If you attract partners and pals who love to talk about themselves, are easily offended, exaggerate their accomplishments, believe they are above the rules and expect “special” treatment then today’s Real Love Revolution vid about the damage and danger of dating a narcissist is for YOU!
Does the above description resonate with you? Does it perhaps remind you of your partner or one of your parents? Or can you see yourself in there? When it comes to being in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s difficult to find any real intimacy because everything is about your functionality in their life. Narcissists can love only on a superficial level. As long as you are doing what they think you are supposed to be doing, all is well. (And when I say “well,” I mean they get what they want and you stay unsatisfied, unseen and unheard.) The moment you deny them exactly what they want, look out! They will explode, get mean and do just about anything to get you back in line with their plan. If you don’t comply, they will leave.
Actions and conversations with a narcissist all revolve around building them up, even when it’s “about you,” it’s really about them – they get to “show you off to their friends.” That isn’t about you at all. It’s about their ego and how you make them look. How can you possibly be your true self in a relationship with someone who only sees you through how you benefit them? A real relationship requires both parties being witnessed and seen, allowing you both to be authentic in the relationship, and therefore, deepening the intimacy and love.
In this Real Love Revolution video you will find:
- A checklist to discover the signs of narcissism
- How to avoid falling in love with a narcissist (Be proactive! Learn about narcissism now and save yourself a world of pain later!)
- Stories and scenarios to help frame what it is like to date a narcissist
- What to do if you are a narcissist (Hint: Therapy)
The first step in dealing with narcissism is to increase your awareness. By recognizing the signs and connecting the dots to your own childhood experiences, you can consciously avoid the taker trap. Check out the full Signs of Narcissism Checklist now to learn how to spot the signs and use it to dive deep into your own life and relationships! Drop me a comment here on the blog and let me know your experience with narcissists and how this video impacted you. And don’t forget to head on over to my YouTube Channel to subscribe for direct AND FREE access to all the past and future Real Love Revolution videos.
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Carefully read through the Sign of Narcissism Checklist and use this video to raise your awareness around this topic. Dating a narcissist can be exhausting and painful – you deserve healthy, real love. Period.
Thanks for watching, reading and sharing!
And as always, take care of you.
This video is absolutely brilliant….I've been involved with 2 narcissist's over past 18 years, finished last relationship 5 months ago. Need to learn how not to attract another one – your podcasts & information is really helping me heal. Thank you 🙏
So glad this was helpful for you, Caroline! ❤️ I am cheering you on along your journey.
Thank you for your video on this Terri! My experience is basically a repeating relationship reality as you call it: my stepdad is a narc, I’ve been in romantic relationships with them, and had many friendships with them. I started weeding them all out a few years ago. I stopped talking to my stepdad a few years ago and I have to say, I don’t ever regret my choice. It has allowed me to heal on a deeper level and to cut out a toxic person who wasn’t adding anything to my life (only subtracting).
Right on Melissa!!! I am so glad to hear of all your progress and I am cheering you on.
Any hints on how to divorce a narcissist that you’ve been married to a really long time (knew he wasn’t normal, but now I know what the problem is). They think they own you and he thinks everything is his. He would be so difficult to escape from and would want REVENGE. Scary to think about. Thanks for the awesome video. I learned so much.
Pamela,
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Make a long term plan to escape. Be very careful and methodical. Find help in your area. Check out this vid I did for how to leave an abusive relationship safely. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8AQEK62Jogs Wishing you the best of luck!
Every single thing on the list is my ex husband. Holy moly. I am so happy I moved on from that shit. ?
Me tooooooooooo sister!!!!
xo
Thanks Terri,
I wish to God to have had this information/education four years ago…thanks for sharing this LIFE SAVING information.
Narcissists are also pathological liars.
Tam
Tam-
I am glad the vid resonated with you and happy it seems you have escaped a narcissistic relationship. And yes they will say whatever they need to to get their way. So toxic!
Keep up the good work and thank you for being here xo
Thanks for the video about dating a narcissist! You were going to address being raised by a narcissist, and I would like to know your thoughts about that. Thanks!
Jane-
You are so welcome! I will hit being raised by narcissistic parents sometime in this vid series Thanks for the comment!
Great post! I, unfortunately lived with a narcissist.in fact, I’ve been recovering from the relationship for a year-the book Psycopath Free was useful. Could you dedicate a post or an episode to recovering from an abusive relationship please. Thanks a lot!
Mariana- I am happy to hear you’ve moved on from that relationship but understand the devastating impact. Thanks for the book recommendation. Yes, I will add you rtopic to the list for posts. Keep up the good work! xo