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“Kids are not wired to deal with adult problems. It puts them in an uncomfortable position and this absolutely stokes codependency, feeling overly responsible for other relationships in their life.” – Terri Cole
Intro
Have you ever wondered whether you’re too close with your family of origin?
Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them?
Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing?
Then this episode is for you because it’s all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family.
Highlights:
- 3:10 Understanding family enmeshment
- 5:30 Five characteristics of enmeshed families
- 18:10 The impacts of growing up in an enmeshed family of origin in adult life
- 19:40 Tune in to what “yes” and “no” feel like in your body to set better boundaries with your family
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Hey Terri — as I listen to your wisdom and guidance in your podcasts I am wondering if you think co-dependency and poor boundaries occur in the workplace as well? I think they do in the various relationships we have at work and would love your take on that environment. Thank you!
Hey Jill, thanks for the Q and for being a listener! I agree with you- they absolutely do. Codependent behavior can show up in any of our relationships. In my upcoming book, Too Much, I am highlighting several case studies of clients who over-functioned at work.
I have posts about boundaries + work here and here.