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“Your survivor self tries to protect you by catastrophizing the future and convincing you that the waiting room is the best place for you to be.” – Christina Rasmussen


Do you ever feel like at some point, you lost your sense of self?

That’s what my pal, acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author, Christina Rasmussen, is back on the show to talk about. She just published her newest book, Invisible Loss: Recognizing and Healing the Unacknowledged Heartbreak of Everyday Grief.

Christina describes invisible loss as unacknowledged and unvalidated. She says it comes from “a moment of impact, an emotional punch, when we feel rejected, disregarded, thrown away, isolated.” It is a phantom loss, one we cannot even see within ourselves.

In this conversation, Christina takes us through the process of identifying these losses and how to work through them, because almost everyone struggles with invisible loss at least once in their lives.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!


  • 2:38 How encountering a new kind of grief inspired Christina’s new book, Invisible Loss
  • 7:05 The way to start identifying your own invisible losses
  • 14:30 The damage that comes from leaving invisible losses unacknowledged
  • 17:25 The three inner narrators:The survivor, the watcher, and thriver
  • 14:00 Techniques to interrupt your survivor thoughts
  • 25:00 Reframing survivor thoughts and integrating them with a low-risk action
  • 28:00 Practical, everyday steps to handle invisible loss

Connect with Christina Rasmussen

Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her thirty-five-year-old spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process, which launched her on a mission to bring compassion, grace, and validation to thousands, while simultaneously establishing an exit from what she termed the Waiting Room. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is currently finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Her grief work has been featured on ABC News and in Women’s World, the Washington Post, and the White House Blog. 


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