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“Saying, ‘Actually, that doesn’t work for me’– Wow, that’s powerful, and so hard.” – Dr. Tracy Dalgleish


I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships. 

She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it’s accessible. Her book, I Didn’t Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships…Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships. 

We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful about having to do it all, you’ll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we’ve both been there!)


    • 4:10 Most problematic patterns in relationships
    • 6:10 What we learn in childhood
    • 8:50 The pursuer role
    • 10:10 Bids for connection – what’s reasonable?
    • 14:30 Communicating constructively
    • 17:45 How defensiveness impacts relationships
    • 21:00 What if your partner doesn’t want to do the work?
    • 24:30 Codependent relationships
    • 31:50 Letting your partner struggle
    • 35:45 Setting boundaries
    • 38:35 Dr. Tracy’s boundary struggle

Connect with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish:

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a psychologist and couples therapist in Ottawa. For nearly two decades, Dr. Tracy has provided direct clinical services as well as researching, writing, and speaking about relationships. She provides psychotherapy, coaching for individuals and couples, and corporate wellness seminars.

Dr. Tracy makes clinical knowledge and research accessible to people through her contributions to popular media sites, including Times, Forbes, and Motherly. She is also the host of the podcast, “I’m Not Your Shrink” and author of her debut book, “I Didn’t Sign Up for This: A couples therapist shares real-life stories of breaking patterns and finding joy in relationships… including her own.” 

She offers online webinars and trainings to people all over the world. A mom of two young children and owner of Ottawa’s mental health clinic, Integrated Wellness, she knows what it means to balance the full load.


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