“There’s always an inner negotiation when I communicate with my family: I always want to be authentically myself, and I also want to keep myself safe. Sometimes what it means to be authentically me is choosing not to share a part of my identity because it is not emotionally safe to do so.” – Rae McDaniel
I am so happy to have Rae McDaniel (they/them) on the show. Rae is a non-binary Speaker, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator. They are also the author of Gender Magic, which came out earlier this year.
Rae’s style of teaching is so accessible and inviting, and we cover their backstory, setting boundaries while staying true to yourself, moving from fear into empowerment, finding chosen family, intimacy and friendships, and so much more.
I love following Rae on Instagram because I always learn something from them, and I think you will, too.
- 2:50 Rae’s origin story
- 4:45 Negotiating coming out with family
- 7:55 The response to Gender Magic
- 10:00 Fear of being wrong
- 11:50 “Am I trans?”
- 14:20 Moving from anxiety to proactiveness
- 16:10 How do you want to feel?
- 19:50 Pleasure as a compass
- 20:50 Shame
- 23:20 Intimacy in friendships
- 28:40 Rae’s most challenging boundary struggle
Connect with Rae McDaniel:
Rae McDaniel (they/them) is a non-binary Speaker, Author, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator. Rae helps audiences gain the sheer audacity to be themselves in the world through play, pleasure, and possibility. Their book Gender Magic is a first-of-its-kind practical guide to achieving gender freedom with joy, curiosity, and pleasure for transgender and non-binary individuals, gender explorers, and those who love them (May 2023.)
Rae is also the founder and CEO of Practical Audacity, a Gender & Sex Therapy practice in Chicago, serving over 400 clients yearly. When Rae isn’t educating audiences and bettering the world, they can be found drinking too much coffee, snuggling with their dog Gizmo (who might actually be a gremlin), or sipping whiskey with a good book.
Therapy Practice: https://www.practicalaudacity.com
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