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“The satisfaction of attacking others is super short-lived. Saying mean things doesn’t improve your position, it lowers your integrity.” – Terri Cole



If something is really important to you, can you go to the mat for it?

Do you know how to negotiate and stand up for what you want? Or do you avoid the conflict and potentially end up living with regrets?

Knowing when and how to fight fair for what you want is part of being a boundary boss and essential to living your most satisfying, self-determined life! 

That’s why in today’s episode, I’m walking you through how to pick your battles wisely, how to stand your ground, and how to negotiate like a pro. 


  • 02:24 Pick your battles wisely: Only go to the mat for things that are important to you
  • 06:58 Sometimes conflict is necessary even if it makes you uncomfortable
  • 08:16 Take your time so you can negotiate for your needs mindfully
  • 10:26 Stay calm
  • 10:56 Create a plan and know what you need from the negotiation
  • 13:44 Form a partnership against the problem

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  1. Terri,
    Thank goodness for you and your tenacity in writing the book as well as the courses. The “when and how to fight” is a good one for me to watch a few times. I am one that runs the other way to avoid any type of conflict. I am learning so much from you and your approach to situations. I can see where this takes ongoing practice with some lines already in place so as to disarm the opponent. It really makes sense to neutralize the area, “zone,” and bring a sense of mutual consideration. I am going to keep watching and learning. Many Hearts to You!

    1. Hi Marie,
      Thank you so much for sharing! I’m so glad this resonated for you and you’re enjoying Boundary Boss ❤️❤️

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