“When I was in my 20s, I really did believe that I was helping others until it hurt because I was loving and kind. I had no idea that codependency was a covert bid for control.” – Terri Cole
Do you give ‘till it hurts in your relationships?
Do you feel responsible for other people’s feelings, problems, and situations?
I can’t tell you how many comments and emails I get asking me: “How can I tell if I’m codependent?” and “What’s the difference between being caring and codependency?”
Over the last 25 years as a psychotherapist and as a recovering codependent myself, I can tell you that raising your awareness of these 8 codependency warning signs can help you start to focus on your own side of the street.
In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the most common symptoms and red flags that could point to codependency.
- 03:16 1. You have trouble articulating your own feelings and emotions
- 03:43 2. You are a people pleaser
- 04:54 3. You are an auto-fixer
- 07:00 4. You are a boundary disaster
- 07:52 5. You ignore, deny, or minimize problems in your own life
- 12:00 6. You are self-sacrificing
- 13:00 7. You do things for others that they can and should do for themselves
- 15:04 8. You over-give
Here is the codependency warning signs guide I made to go along with today’s episode.
If this episode resonated with you and you want guidance identifying your codependent behaviors and recovering from them, I would love to see you in the course I am teaching with Mark Groves, Crushing Codependency. The course begins November 3, 2021.
The book I mentioned in today’s episode was Unhealthy Helping by Shawn Meghan Burn.
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