“Zero is the happy place where we feel good and connected again, and that’s where most of us want to be in our lives – we want to be at zero with the people who matter most to us.” – Jayson Gaddis
Today I’m interviewing my super-smart friend, Jayson Gaddis, who just released a brand new book called Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships.
If you are a conflict avoider, you sometimes passive-aggressively communicate your displeasure rather than having a conversation about it, or you just don’t know how to repair your relationship after there has been a blowup or rupture, this episode is for you.
- 01:56 How a painful journey inspired Jayson to write his new book
- 03:48 The biggest problems that people run into figuring out the conflicts in their relationships
- 04:55 How Jayson defines conflict
- 06:27 What does “getting to zero” mean in our relationships?
- 08:48 Conflict types – Do you posture, collapse, seek, or avoid?
- 10:40 How we create inner conflicts from outer conflicts
- 11:52 The top 5 most common types of relationship conflicts
- 14:16 Identifying roadblocks to connection
- 15:44 How can we reduce defensiveness in our conflicts?
- 19:24 Relational blueprints and plasticity
Connect with Jayson Gaddis:
Jayson Gaddis is an author, relationship expert and coach who teaches people the one class they didn’t get in school—”How To Do Relationships.” Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship educational programs and trains relationship coaches all over the world. Jayson has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels and is the host of The Relationship School Podcast with over 5 million downloads (and over 330 episodes). He is the visionary behind The Relationship School and his first book, Getting to Zero, was released October 2021.
To get the book and some extra goodies, go to gettingtozerobook.com. Visit Jayson’s site relationshipschool.com for all things relational and check out The Relationship School Podcast, which I have appeared on as a guest multiple times.
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