“Establishing clean agreements sets up everyone in your life to succeed.” – Terri Cole
Do you ever make assumptions in your relationships about what people should know about you or do for you? Ever think, I shouldn’t have to tell them, they should know that by now?
Or do you have relationships where you have silent agreements to jointly participate in selective amnesia, not discussing certain topics like a bad fight, addictive behavior, broken promises, etc?
If this resonates with you, like most people, you might be playing out some silent agreements in your relationships. In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between silent agreements and clean agreements so you can avoid the pain and frustration of making assumptions or suffering quietly and shift towards healthier, more direct communication in your relationships.
- 03:05 Understanding silent agreements
- 05:05 What assumptions are you making?
- 07:44 What relationships in your life do you find you have silent agreements with?
- 09:59 Lasting impacts of silent agreements
- 10:34 Why you lean towards silent over clean agreements
- 12:09 Understanding clean agreements
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