Life can be complicated & difficult. SIMPLIFYING can help. @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

What could you do to simplify the parts of your life that you are complicating?

Life can be overwhelming, no doubt about it. Though have you ever noticed that the common denominator in every challenge you face, is you? As a psychotherapist I see all the ways people unnecessarily complicate their lives by over thinking, over reacting and over analyzing. All of those behaviors distract you from the present moment and block your access to your own ability to problem solve effectively. If you are seeking a more joy filled and peaceful existence, this is not the way to get there.

If you feel overwhelmed with situations and decisions you need to make in your life, perhaps it’s time to step back and simplify. Focussing on what is right in front of you and breaking the situation down to just the next right action is an effective way to simplify. Below are three separate tools to help you.

3 Tools to Keep it Simple

1. Get perspective

If you’ve ever served as a sounding board for someone else’s challenges, then you know that perspective is key. It seems, the more removed you are from a situation, the more clearly you can see a resolution. Try and remember this when dealing with your own life. Sharing with those you trust can be an excellent way to come to a simple solution, you had not seen before. If your closest pal came to you with the exact same situation you are in, what advice would you give her?

Learn 7 ways to simplify

2. Write it out

We have all heard the phrase one day at a time but knowing it and living it are two different things. It can be especially difficult when you are running a business, a family, and a home. So when worlds and obligations collide: Write. It. Out. Truth is you can only do, and deal with, so much in a day. Putting it all down on paper will help you prioritize, schedule, and edit. An action plan founded on a clear list of priorities will increase your effectiveness and decrease stress and overwhelm. Simply taking the next right action when it comes to any situation will create a sense of ease.

Keep It Simple Sweetheart #KISS via @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

3. Permission to Pass

Many of my clients have mastered their careers yet still feel compelled to try to be everything to everyone. Their success at work makes them feel guilty as Moms so they also volunteer to raise money for the school or become president of the PTO etc. The self-set standards of your typical overachiever are impossible to sustain. So if you identify with this or you find yourself craving simplicity, or even just a little bit more down time, then you must give yourself permission to pass. It’s okay if you bail on dinner, pass on a new project, or even take a personal day. No one said you had to do it all, so please stop trying. (It’s OK, you are still AWESOME!)

I disagree with the more is always better philosophy to which much of our society subscribes. Because that ‘more’ ain’t free. It comes at a heavy price to your health, relationships and overall well being.
I say…


What do you say? In the comments below please share one thing that is complicating your life, and one action you are willing to take to simplify.

Also if you have not yet signed up for my Freedom Blueprint Program, make sure to do so on the right sidebar of this site, it’s FREE (and I made it just for you people, so get movin’!) Have an incredible week keeping it simple, and as always, take care of you.

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  1. Feeling guilty for saying “I can’t help. I’m worn out.” So I give in and later find that I’ve neglected my own responsibilities. That leads to crash catch up work…..miserable.

  2. After 15 years of working in the corporate world in a management position, I left my job to join my husband’s business. We work from home. Our styles of working are very different, and we’re fighting more and more. Am I too controlling? Perhaps I just need to back off. Help…before I strangle him!

    1. Ryan,
      Working together is very challenging. If you are coming into his company, might be good to observe the culture before jumping right in on what needs to change (as people are resistant to change and if he feels like you are criticizing him too he will be even more resistant) It is important to set up time where work ends and real life begins so that your real life and your work life are clearly delineated. Do an experiment and stop trying to convince him of anything for a week and see how it goes ( i bet something will shift for the better 😉 Let us know what happens xo

  3. Hi Terri
    I have been on your mailing list for some time now and have enjoyed your emails.
    But I was so impressed by your TEDx talk. Thank you for sharing your personal story. It certainly put things in perspective for me as I, at 48, after years of sitting on the fence, have chosen to embark on creating a new life for myself. Not an easy task-as leaving my marriage of 23 years was surrounded by FEAR of all different shapes and sizes.
    I will try to take the time to meditate. I feel like I have been on a treadmill/ roller coaster and can’t slow down. If I don’t work- I don’t make money. It’s one thing after another. Meals, get kids to work and school etc.. My favourite time of day seems to be getting into bed and closing me eyes. Gratitude, however, has kept me afloat. Thanks for all your help and e-guidance.

    1. Beth,
      Thank you for your note. I am so glad you found your way here. Please give meditation a try. Start with 5 minutes in the morning and see what shifts. Meditating can really quiet fearful mind chatter. Keep up the good work xo

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