Communication is such an essential part of romantic relationships.
This show is inspired by the work of researcher Dr. John Gottman on romantic partnerships. The Gottman Institute talks about the four horseman and the four relationship killers. I go over these to help you be aware of what to look for and create in healthy relationships.
Today, I talk about criticism, boundary requests, how to deal with conflict, how to build a “well” of good will and make hard times less hard, the importance of taking responsibility for yourself, and more.
I created a little downloadable cheat sheet to help you take actions and have a better problem solving skills.
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“If you are just criticizing someone, you really are just attacking them.” – Terri Cole
Show Notes:
- The top 4 relationship killers
- What is the difference between criticism and a COMPLAINT?
- What a boundary request is
- The real antidote for criticism
- What is the single greatest predictor of divorce?
- How to build a well of good will
- How to make hard times less hard
- The importance of taking responsibility for yourself
- How to avoid Stonewalling
“Criticism is basically about the person and not about the behavior.”- Terri Cole
Links Mentioned:
“When you really need to be right about something, it’s so easy to get and stay polarized.” – Terri Cole
3 Steps to Master Conflict with Self-Regulation