This week, I want to talk about the anatomy of an authentic apology. Do you know how to say you’re sorry and mean it?

Let’s look at a couple of common ways people think they’re apologizing, but they’re actually not:

1. Do you say, “I’m sorry, but ___________” (fill in the blank with the why of the offending action)? For example, “I’m sorry, but I was tired” or “I’m sorry, but you were annoying me.”

2. Do you act out your feeling of remorse rather than putting words on it? For example, a friend of mine told me that in thirteen years of marriage, her husband has never said “I’m sorry,” but she knows he is because he acts nicer than usual.

I want you to think about how you apologize and what you need to do to actually BE sorry and communicate it in an authentic and effective way.

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I hope you have an amazing week, and, as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love
Terri

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  1. Hello Terri,
    you found me on twitter and delighted I am to be found! this is a terrific site – and yes, a great post. I always think that apologies only work when we really own our part in the interaction, and then fully forgive ourselves – can be pretty uncomfortable sometimes!! When we have done that then we can apologize because we are not still trying to Win something or hide from something.
    I hope to stay in touch with you,
    be well, Kate

  2. Wow! This is right on par with what I experienced at work today. I had to call tech support to help me re-set my password. Needless to say I ended up getting WAY more frustrated than I needed to with the person on the other line who was obviously just doing her job. As soon as the issue was resolved and I hung up the call I took a breathe and realized that I was not treating her the way I would want to be treated. I emailed her immediately letting her know I was sorry with no BUTS. Just a straight up, I apologize for my tone and frustration, thank you for your assistance and have a wonderful day. In the past I would have certainly thrown in a few buts and this is why I treated you like I did…but I’ve done..about 10 years of deep inner work and the process continues to unfold. I am not superhuman but am thankful that when I do mess up I can realize it and take the right action. Great topic!

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