“Who run the world? GIRLS!” ~Beyonce
If given the task, I believe you could probably run the world. You already run your home, family, and a successful career, while juggling all of the day-to-day tasks required to make life work. You’re independent and you know how to get sh*t done.
Sometimes you may wish you had more help, but let’s face it, no one else is as efficient and precise as you. Delegating may be difficult because you believe if you want something done right, you’ve got to do it yourself. Time and time again you’ve been proven right when others reveal their inability to get the job done properly. As a result your to-do list is never-ending—though there are moments when you realize you could really use a break.
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If this sounds at all like you, then it’s time to ask for help, as resistant as you may be. You may have become accustomed to doing it all on your own. Perhaps you don’t want to “bother” or “burden” friends, family or colleagues by asking for help, insight or guidance. Or you simply don’t trust other people to do a job as well as you. However, this do-it-yourself habit can create feelings of isolation. Not to mention that going at it alone is a lot less fun.
I agree with the Dalai Lama but want to add; she won’t be doing it alone. The Superwoman Syndrome—doing it all on your own—is so last decade! The truth is we all need help and accepting it is an important part of success, joy and freedom. At some point you have to ask yourself what’s more important: spending extra hours at the office to make sure every piece of a project is ‘perfect’ or delegating some tasks to ensure you have more free time to take care of yourself and to be present to what matters?
Whether it’s the clerk asking if you need help carrying grocery bags or a coworker offering to fill out spreadsheets, accept the help. Allow other people to give to you as you so graciously give to others. There is no better feeling than helping someone out, so don’t deny another person that joy.
For the next seven days I want to challenge you to only use the words “Yes” and “Thank you” when you are offered help. Even if you feel like you could do it better, or that you really don’t need the help, accept it anyway. Get into the habit of letting people give to you. No one is meant to go at it alone, including you.
In the comments below type “I’m in” and commit to the challenge. I know this may not feel comfortable but it can be fun. Take this opportunity and enjoy the time you save not trying to get it all done solo. Remember help is not a four letter word (at least not a bad one).
As always take care of you.
Love Love Love,
Terri
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I am in!!
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I’m in
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I’m in. Just moments ago, before I saw this message from Terri, I was standing in the shower crying, realizing that I don’t let anyone help because I don’t trust them to do it as good as me. I am also realizing, as “sweet” and “spiritual” as I am, I have issues lurking below the surface of my own power and greed. I project that onto others, that they want to take my power and that they are greedy, when really, I am finally able to see that it’s in me–not them. This morning on FB,I saw that new little Pixar short, “I Lava You”. It’s adorable and the songs are catchy. When it was over I was teary as I watched the credits scrolling by for just a little 7 minute video. There were probably at least 100 names; 200? There was A LOT of help in its creation. It has been a theme for me this week to let people help me. When I got out of the shower, I logged on to my emails and saw, yet again, the same message: Let People Help Me. How do I begin? I guess this is the answer. Say “Yes” and “Thank you”. I have a long journey ahead with this challenge, but I trust I can at least start by doing this much. Yes. Thank you.
Pamela, your comment is so beautiful and insightful. Thank you so much for sharing. The Pixar analogy is perfect; in life, we all need help. I am so glad that you are having this realization. As for the tears and greed and other emotions you are feeling remember, it’s always darkest before the dawn. I am sending you loads of love. Keep asking for help! Keep taking care of you <3
I want to be in…. But what if there is no one to delegate to like at work where we are all busy?
Hi Patricia,
If you can’t ask for help at work then perhaps you can practice asking friends and family for help from at home and in your personal life. If you are super busy at work you could probably use some help running errands and taking care of personal needs. Sometimes asking for help requires a bit of creativity 🙂 Keep us posted on how the challenge goes for you.
Feeling like exactly the right time to say I’m in! Thanks Terri!
Awesome, Cyndi! Happy to have you in the challenge!
I am In!
Fantastic!
I’m in
Great, Tania!
I am definitely in! And I am all about making things easier now. It doesn’t have to be hard to make it feel worthwhile. Thank you for this reminder, Terri!
You are spot on, Susie. Couldn’t have said it better.
I’m in!
Woohoo! Happy to have you as part of the challenge, Dianne.
I’m in.
Awesome, Cathie!
I am in.
Awesome, Roxie!