Recently, I got an email from a listener asking for advice on how to manage an uncomfortable conversation. You all know that I love to talk about boundaries, and today, I answer this question to empower you in your conversations.
Conversations can be exhausting, especially when you’re catching up with someone you only see once or twice per year. It does not matter if they are related to you or not, you get to decide whether or not you want to be vulnerable. Remember that you can always opt out from conversations that you do not want to be in!
On today’s show, I talk about how to avoid sharing too much in conversations that you want to set some boundaries in, and how you can flip the script and not share what you don’t want to share. I also talk about body language, and I present some strategies to deal with interrupters, and more.
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“Not everyone in the world deserves your balls-to-the-wall truth.” – Terri Cole
Show Notes:
- How to set conversational boundaries
- How to be empowered in your conversations
- What to say when you want to opt out from conversation
- How to flip the script
- The importance of setting boundaries in conversations with certain people
- What to do when people are on their phone while you are talking
“We have to be discerning about who we are talking to, because what’s appropriate in one situation wouldn’t be appropriate in another.” – Terri Cole
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Great episode, Teri!
I’ll be listening to this again – to take it all-the-way-in!
Hi Terri, amazing episode (as usual) perhaps I missed it – where can I find Kasha’s information?? Thank you for everything that you do!!
Hi Keiara,
You can find Kasia Urbaniak’s information right here: https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/ 🥰 Thank you for being with us!!
Thank you for sharing on these important topics I find the new skills offered so valuable…what a gift you are to the people learning conversation skills.
Hi Susan,
Thank you for being here and sharing that with me ❤️❤️ I appreciate you!
Thanks for this Terri. I wonder how you would handle someone that just doesn’t stop talking. Even when you say I’ve got to go and they just keep talking.
Hi Jamie,
Thank you for being here.❤️ Boundaries definitely have a place in these types of situations as well. Politely let them know that you have to interrupt them because you have a schedule and need to get going, but that you’ll be happy to finish the conversation another time. You can start to get up and walk away, give them a hug (or a wave during COVID) and make your exit. Hopefully they will respect that boundary 😉
Thank you so much for those great advices.
(I’m a recovering people pleaser and for me Boundaries are hard to set .)
I need your help :
I have a friend who love to gossip and talk behind people.
How can I told her it’s something that I don’t want to be part of without hurting her feelings.
Hi Khalis,
I’m glad this resonated for you! When talking to your friend, it will be important to focus on yourself and try to subtly change the topic. I would let her know you’re trying to not talk about others, even when you want to. By keeping the focus on yourself, hopefully her feelings won’t be too hurt, but we can also only control ourselves and allow others to feel their feelings. ❤️