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“Boundaries are not about controlling other people. They are about deciding what you participate in.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Has someone ever asked you a question that felt invasive, judgmental, or just plain rude? 

Maybe it was a parent, a family member, or someone who thinks they’re “just being caring.” 

Your response may have been to freeze. 

Or smile and explain. Maybe you answered a question and later regretted it.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. 

So many of us have been in that situation and thought afterward, why didn’t I say something? Why didn’t I draw a boundary? Why didn’t I tell them it was none of their business?

But often we don’t. And that’s what we’re getting into today. How to respond to rude comments and why saying “no” is still really hard for some of us. These two things are connected, and they’re both worth understanding.

Highlights:

• 6:20 You’re not alone: Some rude questions our listeners have been asked by family
• 8:40 How childhood conditioning causes boundary-setting guilt
• 12:00 Some scripts to help you shut down questions you don’t want to answer
• 15:35 Working through your boundary-setting guilt

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