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“When we’re in a relationship, hopefully our goal is to have deep and abiding intimacy. And when you’re expressing yourself passive-aggressively, it really does block how intimate the relationship can be. Because intimacy requires authenticity.” – Terri Cole
Intro
In my almost three decades as a psychotherapist, I’ve seen passive-aggressive anger quietly destroy more relationships than infidelity.
It’s a slow drip of poison. And most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it.
Do you ever say you’re fine when you’re not? Use sarcasm to let someone know you’re pissed off instead of just saying it?
Or are you ever on the receiving end of these behaviors?
If you’ve done it or been on the receiving end of it, welcome to being a human in relationships with other people.
On this episode of The Terri Cole Show, we are going to discuss passive-aggressive anger. Why we do it, what it looks like, and what we can do instead.
Highlights:
- 4:10 Recognizing passive-aggressive anger
- 6:20 Why passive-aggressive anger feels satisfying in the moment
- 9:30 How your family of origin could contribute to habits of passive-aggressive anger
- 16:40 What happens to our nervous systems when we’re being passive-aggressive?
- 17:20 Moving to clearer, more genuine communication
- 19:30 Practicing micro-truths daily
- 20:30 What to do if you are on the receiving end of passive-aggressive behavior
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