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“We have to make a distinction between striving for excellence and striving for perfection. Excellence is attainable. Perfection is not.” – Terri Cole
Intro
“I’ll start dating as soon as I lose those 10 pounds.”
“I can’t go to that event until I find the perfect outfit.”
“I’ll put myself out there when I feel more confident, more ready.”
Do any of these sound familiar? That little whisper in the back of your head that seems so reasonable, almost protective?
I want you to sit with this for a moment: underneath that whisper is a belief that where you are right now, exactly as you are, is not good enough. That unless you present some flawless version of yourself to the world, you’re not worthy of love, connection, or success.
This is how perfectionism sneaks its way into our relationships, and it’s far more insidious than you might think.
On today’s episode I’m going to give you tips to identify where you’re being a perfectionist, recognize the impact it’s having on your relationships, and take your choices back from perfectionism.
Highlights:
- 7:30 The secondary gains of perfectionism
- 11:30 Why being in a relationship with a perfectionist can be scary
- 14:20 How perfectionism can arise from your family of origin
- 16:55 Why perfectionists never leave their comfort zones and may not reveal their true selves
- 22:20 How to take your choices back from perfectionism
Links Mentioned:
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