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“There are really only two kinds of communication: Effective communication and ineffective communication. If you’re ineffective right now, you can learn to be more effective.” – Terri Cole
Intro
Do you feel heard in your relationships with your spouse, kids, colleagues, friends, and family?
Do you find you get the results you’re seeking when talking to people?
Do you feel understood?
If the answer is no or sometimes, this episode is for you. I’m covering what effective communication is, what it looks like, how to get better at it, and giving you scripts to use to be more accurately understood.
Highlights:
- 3:50 How your family of origin shapes your communication habits
- 6:00 Characteristics of effective and ineffective communication
- 9:30 How ineffective communication can overlap with abuse
- 10:20 How body language can be used for ineffective and effective communication
- 12:00 Intentional misunderstandings
- 13:30 Dishonesty and ineffective communication
- 15:00 Questions to help you assess your communication
- 19:20 The importance of effective communication
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Thank you Terri for showing this 62 yo that she needs to learn how to communicate. With a husband currently in rehab for alcohol, I was told by his counselor to look up codependency. I thought what the hell, he’s got the issue, not me. Doing the codependency jig I do so well, I was surfing the internet looking for ways to help him and lo and behold I found myself listening to one of your podcasts. I was a bit gutted to realize how hyper codependent I was throughout my career and my relationships. I’ve ordered your books, podcast is subscribed to and now looking forward to the monthly membership. My WASPy upbringing with a British mother made me learn to “stuff it” if I had differing opinions. No was never an option. I am relieved that moving forward, I CAN make a change to empower my communication and own happiness. No doubt my friends and family are in for a surprise. Guess you can teach an old dog new tricks. Grateful for the internet (and in a sad way my spouse’s problems) or my path would not have made this connection. Thank you for the inspiration.
I am witnessing you with compassion, Leigh, and cheering you on ❤️ Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I am so happy to have you in the membership! I hope my books are helpful, too ❤️
Mrs. Terri I truly appreciate the content you release weekly. I am NEW to your work (started July 2024) and WOW, I am learning so much about ME and still so much more to learn. I have been in my own therapy journey for about 8 years now and I have worked hard to peel all the layers back to reach the core of who I am, so my journey contines and I am greatful to have found you. Effective communication is exactly where I am impared and need the MOST help. Thank you for everything you do and may God continue to bless ALL of your work!
Thank you for sharing, Natasha ❤️ I’m glad you find my work helpful!