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“Socially, we treat domestic labor as if it’s miniscule. We underpay it or leave it unpaid, and it comes with no power or prestige to be doing those jobs. Because it’s so invisible, often the stay at home parent will absorb tasks until they are overwhelmed.” – Laura Danger
Intro
Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too.
I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insights and solutions in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed having it.
Highlights:
- 2:35 How did Laura become a Certified Fairplay Facilitator?
- 4:30 The appalling content Laura saw on TikTok
- 7:10 Do you know your needs?
- 11:00 The Fairplay Method
- 13:10 Asking for help & control
- 14:20 The mental and emotional labor of tasks
- 17:25 Power struggles (taking out the trash)
- 19:00 Weaponized incompetence
- 23:05 How do you change this relationship dynamic?
- 28:20 Why is domestic labor undervalued?
- 30:35 Fear of conflict
- 36:40 Laura’s biggest boundary struggle
Connect with Laura Danger:
Laura is a Licensed Educator, Coach, Content Creator, and Certified Fair Play Facilitator who has been facilitating and educating in Chicago for over 12 years. She has advanced endorsements in the areas of English as a Second Language and Learning Disabilities. Laura facilitates workshops and retreats, coaches individuals/couples, and creates educational content in an effort to create a more equitable and connected world.
Website: https://thatdarnchat.com
IG: https://instagram.com/thatdarnchat
TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@thatdarnchat
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