“Abusive relationships, whether they are emotional, verbal, or physical, do not happen in a vacuum. They happen in a constructed system.”
– Terri Cole
When you’ve repeatedly been hurt by someone and you share it with others in your life do you ever hear things like,
“Well, you probably provoked them” or…
“You can be really sensitive” or…
“Maybe you just took it the wrong way” or…
“I’ve never had a problem with them” or…
“Aren’t you being a bit of a drama queen”?
These reactions are the opposite of supportive. If it happens often, you need to learn how to protect yourself with boundaries from others who (whether they realize it or not) are contributing to keeping an abusive or dysfunctional system in place.
As a continuation of last week’s episode, I’m laying out some strategies you can use to protect yourself emotionally plus boundary language and scripts to help you better manage the abuse enablers in your life.
- 04:00 Recap of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers Part 1
- 12:25 Using intentional boundary language to get your needs met
- 13:50 Scripts to help you approach boundary setting with clarity
- 17:45 Don’t be afraid to repeatedly reinforce boundaries
Find the downloadable guide I made to go along with today’s episode here.
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