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“I find that my clients, and women in general, have a tendency to minimize their own accomplishments and amplify their mistakes.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Do you struggle with repetitive negative thoughts?

We all experience some degree of negativity when it comes to our thoughts and feelings, but if it is frequent or intense, it can get in the way of your highest potential in your life, in your career, and in your relationships. 

From a psychological perspective, an exaggerated or perseverating pattern of thought not based on facts is a cognitive distortion. It is our emotional brains convincing us to believe negative things about ourselves, others, and our situations without concrete evidence. 

In today’s episode, you’ll learn more about how cognitive distortions can show up in our lives and wreak havoc on our self-esteem and our interpersonal relationships. So if you are struggling with negative thoughts or feel like there’s a negative filter on your brain- take heart, you can achieve more mastery over your emotional brain (so it stops playing tricks on you)!

Highlights:

• 02:44 What is cognitive distortion?
• 04:00 Slow down and become mindful of these patterns:
  • 04:18 Minimizing accomplishments and exaggerating mistakes
  • 05:16 Focusing only on the awful things that could happen
  • 06:14 Over-generalizing bad experiences to extremes
  • 06:42 Personalization: Taking responsibility for things outside yourself
  • 07:23 Jumping to conclusions
  • 07:47 Deciding what someone else is thinking instead of asking
  • 09:06 Predicting the future with no evidence
  • 09:23 Disqualifying the positive
  • 12:38 Berating yourself with “should” statements
  • 13:29 All-or-nothing thinking
• 14:55 Identifying which cognitive distortions you employ the most can help you recover from them

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