“If you make yourself vulnerable to people who are really critical, unhappy in their lives, and unsuccessful, their comments will be less about you and more of a reflection of how they feel about their own life. Don’t put yourself in the line of fire: Be discerning.” – Terri Cole
When you have to say no to someone, do you feel compelled to give them a long explanation of why you are saying no, or do you find yourself defending your right to say no?
How often do you find yourself building a case to convince the people in your life that you’re doing the right thing?
When you make a choice do you want everyone to approve of your decision?
If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you. There is an important difference between convincing and providing context when it comes to communicating our boundaries and preferences.
In this episode, I’m breaking it all down for you, because the bottom line is:
You don’t have to convince anyone of anything.
- 03:05 Convincing can be unconscious and pop up in any situation
- 05:12 The psychological factors underlying your urge to convince others
- 08:12 How providing context is different from convincing them
- 10:21 Be discerning who you provide context to
- 13:48 How to ask specific questions of people whose opinion you do value
- 15:23 Remember: You are the boss of you
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