When our attachment system gets activated, many of us act it out instead of talking it out.

We go silent. We pursue. We withdraw in anger.

We overfunction harder, we get short, we test the other person to see if they'll come find us.

In the moment it can feel like who we are. Protest behavior is our nervous system reacting to old wounds.

If you're ready to stop asking for closeness in ways that push people away, then this workshop is for you. 

If you've done the High-Functioning Codependency work, some of this may sound familiar.

The overfunctioning, the people pleasing, the emotional overchecking, the panic when someone pulls away. In my experience, HFC patterns and anxious attachment tend to travel together.

Learning your attachment style gives you a second set of language for behavior you've already started to recognize, and a way to work with it while it's happening instead of after.

Attachment + Protest Behavior is a 90-minute interactive workshop.

We'll cover:

• Your protest behaviors and how to name them
• The four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized, and what sets each one off
• Why anxious protest tends to pursue while avoidant protest tends to pull away
• Why two people with different styles can activate each other without either of them meaning to
• Practices for moving toward earned secure attachment

We'll help you:

• Catch yourself mid-protest so you can say the actual thing instead
• Ask for what you need directly, even when your system is telling you to act it out
• Understand where your patterns came from without shaming yourself for having them
• Build security inside yourself that travels with you into whatever relationship you're in

If you've heard me talk about attachment styles before, some of this will sound familiar, and that's by design. Most of us need to hear this material more than once.

​​​​​​​This time we're going past the definitions into the how: what to do in the moment your system gets activated. That's where we'll spend our time.

If you're tired of watching yourself do the thing you promised you wouldn't do again, this is where it can start to change.