I was talking to my friend Ophira Edut (one of the twins making up the go-to gals of astrology, The AstroTwins) about fear of the unknown. She asked me my thoughts on why new experiences can create such fear and anxiety.
My best answer: It is because you can’t picture the experience happening. You have no prior information to use. Which is when you start to fearfully project what might happen.
When you have an experience, your mind literally lays down neural pathways (it’s why you don’t have to learn how to drive every morning you get behind the wheel). If you have never done something before, you have no cerebral roadmap, so to speak. You can’t access how the experience will go, what it will look like, how you will feel.
But, we are learning more and more that visualization can be just as powerful as an actual experience. And, as I’ve spoken of time and time again, now is not then, and even though you may have been in a relationship before, are expecting another baby, are changing jobs, etc., just because you went down one road before doesn’t mean this time will be the same…different characters, different time, different place, different you. And what you WANT to happen can play a huge part in what actually happens if you set that intention.
Ophira was relating this to when she was pregnant with her precious daughter. She had never been pregnant before, so had no experience, no roadmap, on which to base giving birth. All she had to go on was what she saw, heard, and read from others (most of them terrifying tales). As we talked, she recognized that what helped her in preparing for the fear that definitely gets kicked up when you’re expecting was to visualize every step of birth unfolding without a hitch and surrounding herself with uplifting stories and educating herself. In essence, setting the intention that her experience would be more happy than horrifying.
So, I want to toss this idea out to you. If you are embarking on a brand spanking new adventure, create a blueprint of how you want that experience to unfold. Visualize and feel the feelings of how you want this new relationship, job, role in life to play out.
In the comments, tell us: What is your new adventure? What are you truly afraid of with this new experience? Does using visualization help lessen the fear? Did visualization impact the outcome?
I hope you have an amazing week, embracing the unknown, and, as always, take care of you.
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