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“Find the need. Fill the need. Do it on repeat. It needs to be emotionally moving, because if you’re just going through the motions, it’s not going to hit the emotional center of you that needs to heal. ” – Trevor Hanson
Intro
Whether you struggle with the fear of abandonment or you tend to shut down when things get close, this conversation is for you.
In this episode, I’m joined by psychotherapist Trevor Hansen to discuss why so many of us get stuck in the attachment style “research phase” and how to actually rewire your brain for secure attachment.
We dive deep into the “origin stories” that drive our adult behaviors, the hidden link between anxious and avoidant styles, and a powerful “voice note” tool you can start using today to meet your own unmet needs.
Highlights:
- 6:30 How discussions about attachment style often end up as dead ends
- 8:30 Finding ways to fill your own unmet needs
- 15:25 Telltale signs of anxious attachment
- 21:40 Boundary setting as an anxiously attached person
- 33:10 Trevor’s most challenging boundary struggle
Connect with Trevor Hanson
Trevor is an internationally recognized coach dedicated to helping individuals and couples create secure, thriving relationships. After overcoming his own anxious attachment, breaking his jaw, ending a toxic relationship, and leaving a corporate career atTesla, he found his purpose in helping others find their secure self. With a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and advanced training from some of the world’s top attachment experts, Trevor has helped thousands of clients around the globe. He’s been featured by the Gottman Institute and has spoken to audiences of over 10,000. As the founder of The Art of Healing, he guides people through his signature program, the Secure Self Club, to help them step into emotional confidence and build the kinds of relationships that last.
Trevor’s free 15-minute seminar, From Anxious to Secure: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com/from-anxious-to-secure
Website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com/
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