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“You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself in small, socially acceptable ways. These small moments matter.” – Terri Cole
Intro
Do you say yes before checking your calendar? Jump in to fix problems that aren’t yours to solve? Adjust your plans without a second thought to keep the peace?
If any of this sounds familiar, you might be an auto-accommodator. And trust me, it’s costing you more than you realize.
About two years ago, I shared a story about auto-accommodating that struck a nerve with so many of you. The response was immediate and overwhelming – it went viral because people finally had a name for this reflexive pattern they’d been living with for years.
In this week’s episode of The Terri Cole Show, I’m diving deeper into auto-accommodating – what it is, why we do it, and most importantly, how to stop. This isn’t about breaking a bad habit. We’re talking about shifting a deeply ingrained behavioral pattern that silently influences your relationships, stress levels, resentment, and sense of self.
Highlights:
- 4:00 The motivation behind auto-accommodating
- 5:30 Recognizing when you’re auto-accommodating
- 11:00 The consequences of auto-accommodating
- 17:30 Strategies to help avoid auto-accommodating
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