“Every unwanted pattern we have in our lives today that we can’t shake is related to unresolved pain from the past. We need to look at it.” –Vienna Pharaon
I am so excited to have my pal and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, on the show to talk about her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live & Love.
We take a deep dive into original injuries: how you can identify yours, the 5 types of wounds, the wounds each of us experienced, what inspired Vienna to write this book, and so much more.
- 3:20 The launch of Vienna’s book
- 5:20 Why Vienna wrote The Origins of You
- 8:20 Why Vienna became a therapist + her family dynamics
- 14:20 Original wounds
- 15:30 The Worthiness Wound
- 16:30 The Belonging Wound
- 17:50 The Prioritization Wound
- 19:30 The Trust Wound
- 20:20 The Safety Wound
- 21:20 Terri’s experience with her parents
- 23:30 Honoring our childhood experience
- 27:30 Repetition compulsion in family systems
- 30:40 The most important thing to know about origin wounds
- 35:00 Minimizing your experiences
- 37:10 How did Vienna’s parents react to the book?
- 41:00 Vienna’s biggest boundary challenge
Connect with Vienna Pharaon:
Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. She received her Master of Science in marriage and family therapy from Northwestern University, and trained extensively at The Family Institute, Bette D. Harris Family & Child Clinic. Pharaon has been featured in The Economist, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, among others. She currently lives in Upstate New York with her husband and son. THE ORIGINS OF YOU is her first book.
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