Listen & Subscribe on iTunes/Apple Podcasts
Listen & Spotify
Listen & Stitcher.
Listen & Google.
Listen & PlayerFM.

“In my twenties, I was so threatened by my own anger that I was terrified of everybody else’s anger too.” – Terri Cole



Have you heard the terms “reactive abuse” or “reactive anger” making the rounds on social media? Are you wondering what the heck it means?

Are you curious if passive-aggressive anger factors into this?

Or maybe you want to know: can anger ever be healthy?

I have received a number of emails asking me to clarify all of these terms, so in today’s episode, I break down what reactive abuse/reactive anger is, what passive-aggressive anger is, and what healthy anger might look like.

If your relationship with anger has been tenuous at best, or if you are seeking clarity on an abusive situation, this episode is for you.


  • 2:55 How to tell the difference between anger and abuse
  • 5:10 Leaving an abusive relationship safety (If you’re experiencing abuse)
  • 7:12 Understanding passive-aggressive anger
  • 10:40 How passive-aggressive anger is expressed around time and lateness
  • 17:20 Recognizing and expressing healthy ange

Links Mentioned:

Find the downloadable guide I made to go along with today’s episode here.

This episode is sponsored by Ritual. There’s no more shame in your gut game. That’s why Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit

Take the boundary quiz and learn more about your Boundary Style

Here are some ways I can support you:

I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. Purchase your copy now!

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

SIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER Want love notes from me delivered straight to your inbox? I share things to inspire and empower you each week, plus what I’m reading, watching, cooking…you get the idea ?

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

{"email":"Email address invalid","url":"Website address invalid","required":"Required field missing"}