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“The shadow is the part of us where we put everything we don’t like about ourselves, everything we don’t want other people to know about. What I learned through shadow work is that we really need to welcome that part of ourselves back into the inner kingdom of our being.” – Connor Beaton


My guest on today’s episode is Connor Beaton, a leading men’s work facilitator, speaker, teacher, and coach. But ladies, you might want to stick around because Connor offers plenty of insights into the inner working of men. His new book, Men’s Work, is out January 31, and you can order it here:

During our conversation, we chat about shadow work, the shadow self, and how you can integrate your shadow self into your life for more freedom. Halfway through, we change tracks as I ask Connor to share the latest research on men’s addiction to pornography and how it can affect relationships. He candidly shares many of his own struggles in hopes of helping others. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. 


  • 3:10 – The two things that drew Connor to the work of coaching men
  • 7:20 – Shadow work: how to accept and work with the parts of yourself that you want to hide
  • 15:30 – Why Connor was afraid of his anger + tips on working through that
  • 19:00 – Connor shares research on how porn affects men and impacts relationships
  • 22:50 – The neurological impact porn can have on men
  • 25:08 – What this means for men and their relationships, in practical terms
  • 28:20 – How porn can create unrealistic expectations
  • 33:10 – Who Connor wrote Men’s Work for
  • 35:15 – Connor’s biggest boundary struggle and how he overcame it

Connect with Connor Beaton:

Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to the personal and professional growth of men. He is an entrepreneur, writer, keynote speaker, and facilitator dedicated to building better men. His podcast, “ManTalks”, features conversations with guests from the life purpose, psychology business and spirituality worlds. Connor has spoken to large corporate brands, nonprofits, schools, and international organizations such as the United Nations, Microsoft, Johnson & Johnson, Apple, TED, and Entrepreneurs’ Organization. He lives in New York. For more, visit

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