“Abuse does not have to be physical. Neglect is a silent killer of joy. It’s the one that’s talked about the least in articles and online, you don’t hear that much about it, but it can be devastating.” – Terri Cole
Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.
- 02:14 Neglect is an impactful form of abuse
- 03:14 Recognizing neglectful scenarios
- 05:39 Impacts of childhood neglect on adult behavior: hyper independence
- 06:08 Disordered boundaries
- 07:20 Amplified fear of abandonment
- 08:19 Being highly self-critical
- 09:15 Emotional illiteracy
- 11:28 Low self-esteem
- 12:26 Excessive shame, blame, and guilt
- 13:50 There are steps you can take to recover from childhood neglect
- 14:53 Be gentle with yourself
- 16:16 Become more emotionally literate
- 17:16 Dial in to your needs and desires
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