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“You’re going to have a lot of feelings around learning to establish healthy boundaries in your life. You are creating your new emotional normal by making simple requests, prioritizing your preferences, and negotiating your needs.” – Terri Cole



Does the thought of drawing boundaries make you nervous?

Do you want to avoid it?

Is it one of those things you know you should do but think to yourself, “I don’t want to deal with it”?

In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I will walk you through the rollercoaster of emotions you can expect to feel when you set boundaries and some strategies to help you avoid self-sabotaging in response to them.


  • 03:32 Being prepared for the emotional rollercoaster
  • 04:12 Challenging the unspoken agreement of non-confrontation
  • 07:28 Recognizing your “forbidden feelings”
  • 10:00 How feelings inform our boundary behavior
  • 12:10 Coming up with a proactive boundary success plan
  • 13:40 How to handle guilt, fear, and regret after establishing boundaries

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  1. Thank you so much. Not only did I not feel the feelings, I did not even know what boundaries were. I just thought it was normal to get walked over. Eventually, when I started to think about this, I would well up with anxiety at the thought of speaking up for myself. You hit a chord with this episode. I have learned a lot about my fear mind. I like the idea of these scripts and visualising the conversation going well. Thank you Terri.

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